[GenCat]

Why is it that all I ever think about anymore is being intimate with my friends? I am a young adult and never had sex, but its all I want to happen with any of my friends and its freaking me out because they don't see it that way and I shouldn't either. Anything they say or do I can somehow relate it towards they like me in an intamite way when I really know they are not romantically interested. Help?

Originally Posted by GenCat

Why is it that all I ever think about anymore is being intimate with my friends? I am a young adult and never had sex, but its all I want to happen with any of my friends and its freaking me out because they don't see it that way and I shouldn't either. Anything they say or do I can somehow relate it towards they like me in an intamite way when I really know they are not romantically interested. Help?

I think you're lonely and want/need intimacy, and don't see any avenues to it other than through your friends. I can kind of relate. Especially if you find your friends attractive.

When your desire for intimacy is so strong, it can dominate your mind. It's kind of like ... when you're really hungry, anything tastes good, right ? That's the best analogy I can come up with.

I don't really see anything wrong with your desire. You're a young adult curious about sex and intimacy (esp since you've never made love to anyone), and that's normal, so it's ok to explore a bit. Of course, there are risks when it comes to getting intimate with friends - if it doesn't work out, it may become awkward or impossible to hang out with the same friends again. You might end up destroying valuable friendships.

There really isn't a yes/no answer to this one, esp since I don't know the specifics of your situation. I say it's ok to explore the possibility, but there are definite risks to keep in mind.

[Astriferous]

Originally Posted by lilodian4ever

I think you're lonely and want/need intimacy, and don't see any avenues to it other than through your friends. I can kind of relate. Especially if you find your friends attractive.

When your desire for intimacy is so strong, it can dominate your mind. It's kind of like ... when you're really hungry, anything tastes good, right ? That's the best analogy I can come up with.

I don't really see anything wrong with your desire. You're a young adult curious about sex and intimacy (esp since you've never made love to anyone), and that's normal, so it's ok to explore a bit. Of course, there are risks when it comes to getting intimate with friends - if it doesn't work out, it may become awkward or impossible to hang out with the same friends again. You might end up destroying valuable friendships.

There really isn't a yes/no answer to this one, esp since I don't know the specifics of your situation. I say it's ok to explore the possibility, but there are definite risks to keep in mind.

I second what lilodian said. A desperate need for intimacy can be blinding.

[fletch33]

I think it's the whole putting people on a pedestal thing. I used to do the same thing with friends. I used to want to have a sexual relationship with pretty much every guy friend I had, even if I KNEW he was not right for me. I just wanted to have sex with SOMEONE.

Wait until it is the right person for you. Don't rush it. You can only lose your virginity one time, so make it count.

I still regret the guy I lost mine to, so make it someone you are in love with and someone you can see yourself with for a long time.