[XSleepingSiren21X]

I'm so upset right now because I decided to trust my mom to cut my hair because it was growing out. All I wanted was a trim but instead my mom decided do chop off all my hair.

It made me nervous at first to be letting myself trust my mom to cut my hair when I knew she doesn't cut mines right. She's not that good at keeping up with how my style of hair is cut or trimmed. So I was stupid enough to trust her, again, after the 10th time I kept telling myself she'll just mess up.

I'm really sensitive to how I have my hair managed and cut. Only because I really like how my hair is and I'm really careful on how it's maintained. Well my paranoia is mostly how long I keep it. I like my hair long, the problem is my mom doesn't, so whenever my mom cuts it, it seems she always wants to take a lot of inches off it and that upsets me greatly. I get over it only because she takes about an inch or a half of, so I'm still kept with a lot left.

Well today, my mom kept telling me that it would be better to how some of it short so it would be easier, when I start work, that it can be managed better when I wear it in a hair net. I told her I still wanted it long anyways, but it seemed she didn't care or listen because she decided to take of FIVE INCHES off my hair. At first I was nervous and unsure of what it looked like now that it was cut off. My hair used to be as far down to the belt-line of my pants and I was hoping that the amount of hair she took of didn't take out that big of a gap, but it did. Now it reaches up a few inches past my shoulders, as well as she chopped off some of the top of my head short in areas that didn't look fraid or layered.

I was okay at first looking at it, but I was still nervous feeling it wasn't long anymore and was trying to find ways to get my hair to lay down and look right after trying to straightening it.

Now that I keep looking at it, I keep getting more and more upset to the point, earlier, I just broke down crying feeling like my hair look like a mess and it looked terrible. I don't like how it's this short, every time I look at myself in the mirror I can't help, but start crying, it makes me very upset that it's this short now I feel like I look ugly and I can't help but keep crying because of it.

I hate my mom right now because she knows I don't like it short, but she always does anyways. She never listens to me and never cares how sensitive I am about my hair. I really hate how my hair is now, I spent years getting my hair to grow long and now she ruined it because she wouldn't just leave my long hair alone.

[Angelique67]

Hi, your hair will grow back! I know sort of how you feel, I felt similar decades ago when a person cut my long hair VERY short, like only a couple inches left! It was a very very short hair cut and even if it looked good I hated it. So, I think a lot of us have been through this.

It's complicated by the fact it was your mom who cut your hair but now, haven't you learned never to ask her to cut your hair again? Truly, try not to be upset because it WILL grow back! Hugs!!

And by the way, it will grow much faster if you stop using shampoo and switch to just washing your hair with conditioner. I know it sounds kind of strange but it really does work. Especially a nice conditioner with botanical oils in it, and good stuff like that. Your hair will grow much faster.

[Crazy Hitch]

I'm NEVER satisfied with my haircuts even when I go to professional salons because somehow or other it always lands up being completely different to what I specifically requested. My definition of shorter at the back and longer at the front turns out into a bob. A side fringe will turn out into a front fringe or a piece cut hanging to the side. No layers and they chop more layers to give it "volume". So it's just something I've come to accept .... They're just not seeing what I'm asking for and I'm not getting what I want because they're just doing what they see as fit and not really what I asked for.

I swap hairdressers a lot because I'll hate the way they cut it so I'll never go back again.

Fortunately hairstyles are temporary - I know yours took years to grow but give it a little while to grow out and see someone who can do a bit of a "change" in style for you so it feels a bit different, but good different.

Just, erm, um, don't get your mom to cut your hair again .....

Be well.

[ifst5]

Actually that sounds pretty chic...mid length hair is very 'in' at the moment. I'm sorry she didn't obide by your wishes though. I guess all you can do is think of the positives...your hair won't be as damaged due to the weight of it, you can wash it easier, it will have more volume and therefore look more youthful. Why don't you dye it or something so it's at least the colour you want it to be? Or experiment with different ways of putting it up so at least you feel better about the practicality of it.

At least you've learned your lesson and as long as it looks professionally done you'll know to go to someone else to get the style right next time.