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Old Nov 15, 2014, 06:19 PM
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Hi all I was just wondering what is the most difficult subject to discuss with your T?
Personally, the most difficult subject to discuss with my T is Sex or rather anything; and I mean anything about sex!!! I was severely sexually abused as a child and have had other events that were sexually abusive! So to even think about it I wanna RUN TO THE NEAREST EXIST!!! Even certain movements a person may do not necessarily sexually I see as a sexual flirtation which makes my skin crawl! I don't know how to express it but BPD people have a different way of seeing or experiencing visual things. Another thing is that my T is a male and it hard to express this in his presence. I also don't like to have him see me cry...he knows this is extremely hard for me so he often looks out the window. Be the EMDR process he has to look into my eyes to see how I processing things, he knows when I begin to "disassociate" by seeing my eyes. So I was just curious if anyone else had struggles discussing stuff in therapy.
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 06:44 PM
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My CSA & anything associated with sex or touch. I feel like a freak anyway, so it makes me far more aware how odd I really am when he broaches any of these areas.
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 06:47 PM
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 10:24 PM
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I would agree that transference is the hardest thing that we discuss.
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 10:27 PM
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Childhood experiences. Yeah I hate that.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 07:44 AM
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Anything vaguely emotional. But then he is a heartless ******* so go figure.

I have no problem discussing a variety of things with any health professional but if they're crap then yeah, it makes it a lot harder.
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Old Dec 04, 2014, 08:54 AM
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Transference and anything that has to do with my mother
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Old Dec 04, 2014, 12:18 PM
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Yeah sex is a difficult one and dealing with anxiety.

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Old Dec 04, 2014, 10:08 PM
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My attachment to him. We discuss it, it's just really painful.
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Old Dec 05, 2014, 12:26 AM
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Emotions in general.

I can talk about most things in my past without applying emotion to them.

She says I need to start experiencing them instead of shutting them down.

I say they are the enemy.

We have something of a stalemate right now lol
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The end of our therapeutic alliance.
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Old Dec 05, 2014, 04:35 AM
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My past, my father and self harm.. he thinks I should learn to talk about this things without crying and/or blacking out.. this is what we are kinda trying to work this days.. but d*#n is really hard..
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Old Dec 06, 2014, 03:58 AM
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Old Dec 06, 2014, 05:17 AM
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My T said once I displ symtoms of childhood abuse.

I was just like ... Huh?
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Old Dec 08, 2014, 12:09 AM
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I thought some more about this and I wanna change my answer lol

It's my self worth/blame/esteem issues.

I've come to realize that I can't deal with the idea of the things that have happened to me not being my fault.

Because if it's not my fault then there is no reason for all the bad things.

I need there to be a reason. I don't know why but I hate the idea of there not being one.
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Old Dec 08, 2014, 11:43 AM
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I don't really find any topics that difficult to discuss. I'm very open with my therapist. The only time I ever found it hard to talk was when I was severely depressed. I couldn't tell her how bad I felt because of overwhelming guilt and the fear she would put me in the hospital.

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My T said once I displ symtoms of childhood abuse.

I was just like ... Huh?
Please be careful with that therapist. A few tried that on me and nearly convinced me that I was abused even though I never was.
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I thought some more about this and I wanna change my answer lol

It's my self worth/blame/esteem issues.

I've come to realize that I can't deal with the idea of the things that have happened to me not being my fault.

Because if it's not my fault then there is no reason for all the bad things.

I need there to be a reason. I don't know why but I hate the idea of there not being one.
That is my #1 reason. Having to live with this disorder and coming to peace/acceptance of why would anyone hurt me this bad. It was my age group that hurt and did the most damage in my childhood.
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why he hurt me so much and was so callous to me
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I don't have a therapist or any other doctor like that as I would be afraid they would force me into a hospital. I am deathly afraid of psych wards. I also have no support from family or my one friend.
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Old Dec 10, 2014, 09:57 AM
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I don't have a therapist or any other doctor like that as I would be afraid they would force me into a hospital. I am deathly afraid of psych wards. I also have no support from family or my one friend.
Unless it's a state run hospital, most aren't that bad. Once you get past your fear you may not want to leave. For me, life is easier when I am IP. The only decision I have is what to order for my meals.
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