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Jun 22, 2015, 01:31 PM
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Hey mates. I may have BPD or not, but my problem mainly is relationships and my self-image. Occasionally I become obsessed with a girl, and after that my mood is dictated by how she treats me. I'm in my early 20's now. Till 2 years ago, I didn't have the courage to approach girls. Finally one girl approached me, but she couldn't tolerate my BPD traits and it ended up traumatically for me.
That relationship made me realize that I've been having a faulty self-image, and I can be potentially attractive to some girls. Since then, I've been trying girls on OkCupid etc. I've been able to make some friendships, but all of them finally have ended up with them wanting to end it, and agony for me, not to mention hundreds of rejections and not-responded messages, which every single one of them hurts. Currently I have many opportunities in university etc around me, but I feel too depressed to do anything. I used to have like 3 close female friends, but the last one just left me recently. I've decided to avoid girls for a while, and stick to other things in life, but I just can't... I need to fix my self-image, but all I have in minds is painful rejections by girls, and I can't try any new girls, because I can't bear any more rejections. So what should I do to distract myself? P.S. I have a long history of depression. I used to be very lonely, left out, and feeling the coldness of the world. I even had one attempt of suicide. Things changed and I got better. But right now, I'm feeling that coldness again... The people whom I care about, don't care back about me. Suicide is not an option for me anymore, because of that horrid experience of suicide attempt I had. |
 Anonymous200104, Crazy Hitch
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Jun 22, 2015, 02:41 PM
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Feeling the coldness too
   Peace to you
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 Transcendent91
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Jun 22, 2015, 02:56 PM
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The title says "Mental Health Support". I definitely need support. I was seeking support from those close female friends I used to have, but they all refused, and this "refuse" even made me feel much worse.
So now, I wonder how this "Mental Health Support" works? My problem specifically is that "The people whom I care about, don't care back about me". How on earth would someone who doesn't know me would want to care, listen, and support me? What would be his/her motivation? Knowing the motivation, if it's original, is part of the support I may need... |
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Jun 22, 2015, 02:58 PM
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Thanks for your reply. 
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Jun 22, 2015, 04:37 PM
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Just wanted to stop by to leave you a quick note to say hi and welcome to PyschCentral.
It's great to see you on the BPD Forum. I look forward to getting to know you better through your posts. Take care 
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| Transcendent91
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Jun 23, 2015, 10:02 AM
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Thank you Hooligan. Having a community of BPD people feels like a warm shelter. I cav write billion lines about myself, but I don't know who's interested to listen. Even getting socialized at such community needs some initial efforts... And any kind of effort is too much work when you're depressed...
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Jun 25, 2015, 05:45 AM
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Thanks for the hugs, but I need real-life solutions. I'm working on a project, and can't distract myself from the dating world...
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