Hello.
To make a long story short, we were at my husbands grandpa's house for Father's Day. We have a 2.5 year old. He has certain rules, etc.
Well, I was trying my best to watch over the little one, as I wanted hub to have time to visit. Tried to get little to nap, which did not work. The little really needs his sleep. At around 3 or 4 I told hub that we needed to leave right away (it's 1.5 drive home). The little needed to eat supper and was super tired.
He was acting up and whining and just being a toddler that was hungry and tired. Well, everyone was watching a movie, not visiting, and I was trying my best to wrangle the little. My patience was wearing thin as I've been dealing with him all day and he was hungry and tired. Apparently, I snapped at hub. I don't remember snapping at him, but I do remember saying, in a stern voice, can you please look after your son for a bit. He said that everyone gave a "holy crap, she snapped" look to him.
Well, we got home and hub was in a very bad mood, very angry. I asked what his problem was. He snapped at me telling me that I NEED TO START CONTROLLING MY EMOTIONAL OUTBURSTS AT HIM. He was very mean about it.
The next day was a BD party for the same family, but in our town. I told him I didn't want to go. He said that's fine and they went on their merry way.
I feel like he's ashamed of me to his family especially. I haven't worked since December but no one knows. No one besides his mom and dad knows about my illnesses. My whole family knows.
I just don't know what to think. I was angry when we were at grandpas b/c I thought he should have seen how little was acting and hellped me out. They were just watching a movie!!
What are your thoughts??
Sorry, so long.

[Trippin2.0]

Why do yo assume he must be ashamed of you?


You bailed on the party, so that wasn't him being ashamed...


And if its not that, are you referring to the fact that only his parents know? Would you prefer his entire family know your personal business?


The job thing.... are you actively pretending to be working at your husband's insistance or do you just assume nobody knows because it hasn't been discussed in front of you?


Sorry, I'm not quite sure how you came to this conclusion so I'm just searching for some clarity.

[healingme4me]

Ashamed? For what reason, expressing needs a couple times over to be dismissed and have him not in tune with helping out as he selfishly stopped parenting because it's a national holiday?

You're right. I was being a selfish person. Thanks for giving me insight.

[Trippin2.0]

Who said that? Whose right?