asked to change myself

hi all, I'm suffering from BPD and have a very explosive emotional outburst far too often. any attempt to salvage the situation only leads to further make worse of it. i cry for hours together, feeling hurt and wronged, though i cannot point at what started it in that particular episode. My husband has started to lose patience with me as I get very sarcastic and blame him for all my imagined or actual miseries. and later if i get over the episode, i still carry the ill feeling of how he lost his calm and shouted at me.

I'm repeatedly asked to change myself as what I'm is breaking everything apart. My husband though loves me a lot, is on his patience's end.

what to do to control these emotional imbalances? I am distressed by almost anything..

DBT can help with regulating emotions and reactions.


I'm starting my second round in two weeks time.


Practice makes perfect, or so they say...

Medication can help . also being aware that you do this is a good thing , it can help you stop yourself from going to far , just by being aware .

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I know how you feel. I get very explosive emotional outbursts around my boyfriend, often set off from something very small, or like you said, I can't even pinpoint the cause. I could be yelling/being snappy at him all I want, but as soon as he retorts in an equal manner, I become super hurt and can't stop thinking about it for a long time. I had a huge meltdown on the way to my pdoc visit in December. It was quite hysterical for anyone watching, I will admit, but I was so angry, stressed, and overall I felt as though my boyfriend was so terrible for not knowing which way the clinic was (it was our first time going). I even at one point said "bye" and started walking across the street away from him. He usually does not react to my behavior which makes me angrier because I feel like he's ignoring me. I know how messed up it is and I have yet to go to therapy for this due to money complications. I hope you're able to go to therapy for this soon. People may view us as awful people but really we can hardly get a grasp on our emotions on our own.

This book is helping be A TON!

https://books.google.com/books?id=iy...rkbook&f=false

But I bought it off amazon.

Sorry for the highlighted words, its what I googled lol.

Here's the amazon link:

http://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-Be.../dp/1572245131

SaME BOAT! !!

We didn't choose to be this way.

Wow .... it's a relief to know I'm not alone.

TOTALLY not alone!