[melanie221]

I have Borderline Personality Disorder and have been seeing a great psychiatrist for years. However, he recently moved and I got reassigned. I met my new psychiatrist today and it was the worst experience with a doctor in my life. I have never had any really negative experiences such as this.

He said that there was no point for me coming into the office really because it wasn't helping. He said that there was no evidence that counselling or meds help "someone like me." That after all these years and trying many things, nothing has worked for me and I'm still miserable (I did not say any of this). He started grilling me with intense questions that were overwhelming in themselves to begin with. He asked me why people (doctors) said I might have PTSD, and aggressively asked me what my most traumatic experience was to make me have that. I told him I didn't feel comfortable comparing things that have been hard in my life - I was getting more and more flustered. This type of questioning kept happening, and whenever I would answer he would give me strange looks (no, I'm not misunderstanding or projecting). He asked me about how I "act borderline" and I tried to describe it and he said, "so you throw temper tantrums and you're immature." I ended up calling and asking to be switched and they said I could, but I didn't say what happened. I just wanted it to be all over. He is retiring this summer, so I don't know that it would be worth putting in a complaint at this point.

Anyone have a similar experience or have any advice? Thanks

[mf1438]

I had a not so good appointment today too, but for another reason. The bottom line is you don't have to take that crap from anyone. I would report it and get someone who knows how to treat you like a human being!

[Noca86]

I see doctors like that all the time, they are accountable to no one really, better to just drop them off at the curb and be switched to another one. It is great that you even have that option in Canada. The waitlist here is 18 months to see a psychiatrist, so if I don't like the one I randomly get stuck with I can always wait another 18 months for a second opinion I guess lol...

I'm sorry you had this experience.

[Blue_Bird]

Jeez, good thing he is retiring! Sorry for your horrible experience

[cmc3663]

Oh my gosh that's awful. I probably would have strangled him. Thats so rude and insensitive. Thankfully you can see someone else! There's no way it'll be as bad as that.

[dancinglady]

I am sorry you had such a horrible experience. All of the pDocs us old timers saw were like this in the past. He is an old one so let him retire.

I keep reading about this. May I say that this is about 90% of the pDocs opinions. We have a mental disorder that only 10% want to treat. People think these mental health professionals will be compassionate and understanding - 10% - yes. 90% - no. This has been my experience. Hope you find the 10% ones. It takes a lot of hard work to find one. Good luck.

[growlycat]

That is horrific and unacceptable. I hope you switch from this ###hole ASAP!

Melanie, i experienced this with my spouse confronting a shrink who altered her meds. We showed him the ER report that he was responsible and he attacked her than me. He would not take ownership. He said she was a liar for the last 7 years and didn't believe anything she said. He totally negated me. After leaving she suffered another stroke, a mini one.

For myself i attended my apt which was given away on me. My shrink called myself and the other client in the hallway and wanted to know if we were willing to share the hour long apt. I said no, then she asked if i were willing to go first and she was already booked half hr running behind. I said no. then she asked if i wanted to reschedule and i said no. I got no diagnosis, no feedback and nothing squared away about the medicines she wanted me to take. So don't feel bad, I have had bad experiences with them. Always find a new one. Don't feel bad if they don't work for you, after all that is what this is all about. tc

[Achy Turtle Armor]

Years ago I had a temporary pdoc at some hospital tell me that bpd was a made up disorder and didn't really exist. Really confused me and did a fine job of invalidating me. I'm sorry you had this experience.

[Fuzzybear]

I'm sorry about this horrible experience, he sounds ghastly

[Pastel Kitten]

I would have honestly lost my mind and probably start lashing out. I've lost my temper with doctors who were just kinda cold and clinical, before. But someone like what you just described? That would make me see red. I'm so sorry you had such an awful experience.

[lostinsidemyself]

Originally Posted by melanie221

I have Borderline Personality Disorder and have been seeing a great psychiatrist for years. However, he recently moved and I got reassigned. I met my new psychiatrist today and it was the worst experience with a doctor in my life. I have never had any really negative experiences such as this.

He said that there was no point for me coming into the office really because it wasn't helping. He said that there was no evidence that counselling or meds help "someone like me." That after all these years and trying many things, nothing has worked for me and I'm still miserable (I did not say any of this). He started grilling me with intense questions that were overwhelming in themselves to begin with. He asked me why people (doctors) said I might have PTSD, and aggressively asked me what my most traumatic experience was to make me have that. I told him I didn't feel comfortable comparing things that have been hard in my life - I was getting more and more flustered. This type of questioning kept happening, and whenever I would answer he would give me strange looks (no, I'm not misunderstanding or projecting). He asked me about how I "act borderline" and I tried to describe it and he said, "so you throw temper tantrums and you're immature." I ended up calling and asking to be switched and they said I could, but I didn't say what happened. I just wanted it to be all over. He is retiring this summer, so I don't know that it would be worth putting in a complaint at this point.

Anyone have a similar experience or have any advice? Thanks

Thats insane! Im SO sorry!

I would have walked out, no one grills me like that! Not even non-therapists.

And ive never heard of "acting Borderline".

Im thinking about changing simply because my psychtistrist doesnt read my file, you're always waiting hrs for her, shes just a 'script witier', doesnt listen, rushes you out of the 5 min apointment, etc. My therapist I talk to and have built a relationship (trust) is a LMHC, they are in a group. There is one more psychristrist in the group now and I can change to just that other one and stay in the group but thats the only one without changing therapists and thats not happening.

I cant imagine this! He wouldnt of gotten 5 questions in before I would have hit the door and I wouldnt let him just retire. Id report him just to put it on his file or whatever! Why let the man retire with a 'clean record'? Even if it didnt do anything, I would just to do it! Just to make sure that if my abuse, as that IS abuse of power, could have the abilty to be documented!

But thats just me.

[TryingToMoveForward]

When I first saw my new psychiatrist I hated him. He was insensitive, made a comment about my IQ lowering due to mild cognitive impairments and questioned the validity of me having a bad memory because in his opinion, I'm too young to have an impaired memory. He berated me about not using my college degree. I went in the bathroom and cried after the session and phoned my therapist saying I didn't like him. But then I thought, maybe I am over-reacting and misunderstanding him. So I went in a second time and it wasn't so bad. He is a foreigner. As I've gotten to know him, and he's gotten to know me, he's warmed up a lot and acts very caring and concerned. If we need to talk 20 minutes, he doesn't mind. He's actually really great.

BUT in your case...I might have punched the man in the face, or blown up at him. I would have been livid with being treated with such indignity. Report that...I won't swear. Report him. Because no professional should be allowed to treat a client like that.