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Old Feb 19, 2016, 04:34 PM
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I've noticed myself trying to start arguments on purpose. I can feel my uneasiness and anger all in one bubble because its almost like I'm fighting myself not to start arguments.

I can't really understand where this want to fight comes from. From me wanting attention or just craving the anger I feel when I argue. I do this mostly with people I'm close to. I want to fight with them but as soon as I initiate the fight, I regret it. I'll cry and make them feel bad. They'll apologize. And the apology gives me a sense of satisfaction. And I'll start it over stupid issues like dishes in the sink or how they make the bed.

Does anyone else do stuff like this?
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Old Feb 19, 2016, 04:54 PM
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When I feel in a fighting mood, I do something like play a video game or tear up junk mail or old magazines into little pieces to get my frustration out.
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Old Feb 19, 2016, 05:35 PM
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I used to snap at people a lot before I was diagnosed. I think I was crying out for help, I didn't know what was wrong with me and I wanted people to read my mind and know how I was feeling without me even telling them, and when they didn't notice how dreadful and despairing I felt I would get mad and angry with them for not caring enough about me or for not noticing I was dying inside. Yes I did start arguments too especially with people I was closest too.

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Old Feb 19, 2016, 07:49 PM
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Yes, and even though I recognize it in myself, I still find myself doing it to this day. At that moment in time, it feels almost wrong not to start an argument over whatever it is that has gotten me really angry. It's hard for me to find proper anger outlets because said outlets tend to make me even angrier - especially games. I'll end up throwing or slamming things.
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