Roommates

Can you live with them?

My boyfriend and I have lived fairly harmoniously for nearly 5 years. He brought roommates into the house to split costs and its caused considerable turmoil. I feel like I'm constantly living on edge... Its like, I'm always at my breaking point because I just cannot handle living with these people. I freak out, scream, swear, kick and hit things... Then my boyfriend and I start fighting.

These people are disrespectful freeloaders who eat my food, use my things and generally just disrupt the life I've become accustomed to living.

My boyfriend says they'll be leaving and that he's "taking care of it", but it really doesn't look like they're planning on leaving, but I'm not in a good place to be able to address these things on my own.

Anyone else been through something similar? How did you handle it?

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that sounds really frustrating, I moved out of home with my sister, her boyfriend and one other, and I have similar problems. they often don't do their jobs, leave food and mess around the house, and overall don't respect that it's not just their house, so it can't all be their way.

I'm not sure what to suggest about getting them to move out, but for whilst you still have to put up with them I'll share my experience:
we have house meetings every now and then which help a bit, but I find they just forget what we talked about afew days later. Recently I bought some sticky notes to put next to mess, or where jobs have been neglected with a little note to remind them. it seems to be helping so far, and helps me not have to worry about confrontation whilst dealing with my own stresses. Even though there will be times when I'll have to confront them about things, I don't think housemates should have to "parent" each other so leaving a note the first time seems appropriate to me.

hopefully things become less stressful for you soon, it's not a great feeling coming home from a long day of work or uni to see there's mess everywhere or people have eaten your food, it definitely makes it harder to deal with personal issues

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My heart goes out to you. I'd go ballistic in a situation like that. I'm pretty sure I would want my room locked and my own fridge and pantry

If they've been in the house for 30 or more days you have to get an Eviction notice from the sherrifs.

But yes, I can live with roommates. And I think you can too, IF you didn't have roommates that weren't so inconsiderate, insensitive, rude and nasty.

Sounds horrible. I hope they leave soon! I'd be miserable too. Sorry I don't have any good advice because when I was unhappy in a roommate situation I would just stomp around or not talk to whoever was the person who I thought was being disrespectful. It would end at the end of the lease. I wouldn't recommend that as it felt like hell for quite a while.

I guess I'd add to get a date from your boyfriend and not accept a general "I'm taking care of it" ask for specifics, what day will they be gone and until then, what is the rules as far as food and cleaning responsibilities or whatever is bugging you the most.

I have two roommates. One just moved in last week and has no history of me. The other roommate is my best friend, and he knows a lot about my problems. I wish my roommates would clean the effing kitchen sometime and not let it pile up and become an overloaded disaster. Something I have to fix. I wish they would routinely clean up the apartment but that also never happens. I almost want my own place at this point. But I know it is dangerous for me to live alone. I get depressed very easily and I don't seek out help. I usually have to rely on others to see the warning signs.