Looking for input and suggestions

I am new here and wanted to get some perspective from people with BPD. I have been interacting with a female that I have been struggling to understand. It has been suggested that she may have BPD (specifically a quiet borderline).

Last summer, the first time we hung out in a group, she stayed behind to get a ride from me. It was a gorgeous day and the walk to her car was only a few minutes longer than the walk to my car. So, that seemed like a good sign. I had never seen somebody so nervous though. The next day, her friends/coworkers start asking about me…another seemingly good sign. A couple of my coworkers bumped into her and she was asking about me again.

I am feeling confident, so I invited her to hang out at one of the weekly concerts they have in town. Her friend was coming into town though, so she said she would let me know. She didn’t, but was there with her friend. She was very quiet and hardly said a word. I had no idea how to take this.
I invited her to a few things, but always got a weird, ambiguous reply. We had talked about watching games as a group. Well, one weekend I was out of town and she texted my married coworker to watch a game. She apparently asked about my dating life and was asking about me.

A few days later, I had a party at my house. She was the last to leave again. Again, she was nervous, blushing and could barely talk. A couple of days later, I asked her out on a date. She said she was in the middle of getting back with an ex.

The stuff that follows makes absolutely no sense though.

Three days later she went to trivia (which she only started going to after she found out that I went). She was very much in my personal space, to the point that you would have though she said yes to my offer. Her coworker even seemed to hang out and let us talk alone.

The week after I asked her out, she texted my coworker again to watch a game, the same one that she asked about my dating life and the same one I would have been hanging out with, had he been in town.

She gave me weird answers again when I invited her to things, but seemingly was around a lot. She invited herself to my birthday dinner with my coworkers that she barely knew. Then, we started hanging out quite a bit, almost every week for a couple of months. She never said what her relationship status was, but we only hung out during the week. It seemed like things were done with the ex.

She started doing things that are not what you expect somebody to do in this case. She started eating food off of my plate, would just reach over and grab gum out of my hand when I get a piece. It was like she was in my space and my stuff was up for grabs…only my stuff. It was too the point that she would sit down and just grab my food.

She started mimicking me…..like a lot… I would talk about liking chasing storms, she would too. I talk about liking bobbleheads, suddenly she did too. I talk about going on a trip to Iceland, she would look up travel information. One time I made a comment that the NFL seemed like it was rigged sometimes. A few minutes later, there was a questionable play and she said the team paid the officials off. This went on…a lot.

She would bump into my friends and want to have a girl’s night with them, which they thought was weird. She never invited me to anything, but she wanted to constantly want to be around my friends (male or female) and then spend that time asking about me.

One of the last times I hung out, I had to go out to the parking lot a few blocks away. She was very worried about…like, over the top worried.
Again though…Every time I invited her to things, weird answer…like, she wanted to keep me guessing.
The last time I hung out, she seemed to be very comfortable talking to me. Seemed like she was getting really close. But then, her coworker happened to be at the same restaurant and she got nervous.

The next day, she canceled plans to watch a game at the very last minute…again. I questioned her on this and she made it sound like I was an idiot for thinking she was interested.

So, I stopped inviting her to things for a few weeks. Then, she emails me about “work”. The message she sent though made no sense to come to me and she never emails me about work, since we work with 2 different departments. Then, she restricted me on facebook right after that, so I cannot see her stuff. She can see mine though.

I always found it weird that she was the one that kept creating the one on one environment. She said she had trust issues and did not invite her friends to things because of this. So, when my friends left, we were alone.

She never treated me like a colleague. She never treated me like a friend. I was treated differently. Like, she wanted to pull me in, but then push me away when I got close. I have never gotten as many signs from her to make a move as I have with any other female. My coworkers had no idea what was going on. They witnessed it and would ask me if we were dating or what, because of HER behavior.

I know quiet borderlines internalize things more and push/pull is one of the characteristics. What are the signs a BPD would often display before a relationship is formed or during a building of a friendship? (if that is what this was). Can anybody share some insight?

Thanks!

Just looking for some insight on how a relationship with somebody with BPD may look early on.

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