[baboo5]

I have been in a relationship and living with someone that has BPD (my opinion). He would NEVER go to the doctor. I have suggested it.

He breaks up with me quite frequently. We are very compatible and enjoy our time together. I don't think I am as bad as he says - I am financially independent and I am faithful. The last couple of times he broke up with me and told me what a bad person I am, I told him to leave. Then he starts crying and says he doesn't know what is wrong with him.

Any advice on how I can handle this? My heart can only handle so much. I do not feel secure in this relationship at all. Is it fair for me to live like this - not knowing where I stand day to day?

[CANDC]

Hi baboo5. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you are struggling to cope with a relationship that sounds emotionally unstable. If your partner would go to a psychiatrist they could get a diagnosis. But that may not be possible.

If you want to read more about this on your own the following articles may be of interest.

https://psychcentral.com/lib/loving-...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/b...rder-symptoms/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...lity-disorder/

https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-the...oping-methods/

Feel free to PM me and or reply to this post.

[Skeezyks]

Hello baboo: I haven't posted this in a while. But I used to know a guy who was fond of saying: "If you want to know which way the bullet is going, look down the barrel of the gun." If you re-read what you've written here, you'll see what your future is likely to be if you stay with this person.

You wrote your friend will NEVER go to the doctor. Unfortunately professional mental health services are probably what he needs & may be the only thing that will help him. Perhaps in time, he will come to see this himself. But who knows how long that may take or what may have to transpire in order for it to occur? Much as you might wish to you cannot make it happen, in my personal opinion. So, assuming that this is the case, the question becomes how long are you going to be willing to tolerate the unhappiness your friend causes you? Only you know the answer to that question. I wish you well...