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#1
Feb 26, 2018, 05:33 AM
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"For the Borderline, winning takes precedence over getting well. Thus ensues an endless power struggle with the clinician. Their narcissism resents anyone's expertise or wisdom eclipsing them, so they are prone to selecting therapists who aren't equipped to meet their needs. The ones who have the capacity to help, jostle their defenses, and heighten their competitive reflexes. The one element that can actually assist them in healing, is the thing they dread most--which is surrendering to someone's care. Even the loss of a dysfunctional identity (en route to becoming sound and whole), is too frightening to ponder."
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Feb 27, 2018, 03:20 AM
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Not really. Once I built rapport with my T and started trusting her, surrendering was a matter of sessions. My issue is not winning or losing. My issue is trust or not to trust.
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[B]'Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.' |
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Feb 27, 2018, 10:52 AM
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Not really with me either. My issue is also to trust or not...
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| tecomsin
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| FallDuskTrain, TrailRunner14
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Feb 27, 2018, 03:31 PM
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I don't think I was competitive with any of my therapists. If anything it would be the opposite. I trust too easily sometimes.
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| tecomsin
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Mar 01, 2018, 07:49 AM
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Often I find myself idolizing and trying to please others to make everyone happy, sometimes trusting too easy... getting attached and kinda. Emotionaly dependent?
Trying to stop and look at people the way they are instead of projecting things on people? Need to stop hurting myself, stop setting myself up for failure and stuff
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Mar 05, 2018, 07:02 PM
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I just posted in another thread about this. I worry now a little that I might be too trusting,. My therapist has opened this channel for me to email anytime, day or night and am I setting myself up for addiction or attachment? I think though, that I just need to trust a little, plus my husband is here and also keeping an eye. He's a little too untrusting, so I don't want to share my concern with him just yet, but I do think maybe I should try to write out my messages first and then send them. I don't know! See, I trusted some others and they said I was too much, actually my husband thinks I write too much in letters, but I don't know, that's just me! And the cool people stick around and let me vent as long as I appreciate them for that, right? So, yeah, I guess in short, I have issues of trust vs distrust.
However, there was one instance with my NP (for psychiatry) where my symptom made me like very narcissistic and proud when I thought I was right with my diagnosis (of bipolar) but she believes it could be more (like bpd). If it can be both, I still win, right? Because I still believe it's both...maybe...so in that way, it resonates, but I agree with the others in 9 of 10 times. |
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Mar 05, 2018, 07:08 PM
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This is me...
 I do tend to pick therapist that are sweet and are push overs....easy to manipulate into giving me the attention I feel I need. I think that is why I might be having issues with this other therapist I started seeing for EMDR. He definitely triggers me and puts me in a defense mode.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
| giddykitty, tecomsin
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Mar 05, 2018, 07:11 PM
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Yes this was true for me. If youre 80 percent smart, but youre missing that 20 percent caring, more smart does not complete you. Its like, if you dont get any vitamin c, you will get scurvy.
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| tecomsin
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Mar 05, 2018, 07:12 PM
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Mar 05, 2018, 07:15 PM
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Hope you work it out or can find a new therapist. *hugs*
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