Self blame

I don't know why but i blame myself for having mental health problems . there's no way on earth i would choose to have these issues yet i feel like im to blame for having them . i can't explain why

There's so much going on that hurts so bad but I'm finding it hard to talk about on here . i judge and blame myself so i fear that others will to

You suffered many bad things from your mother. Yet it can be very hard to fully blame our parents. In our heart of hearts we may blame ourselves rather than accuse our parents.

I was literally just sat here in tears wondering why I blame myself. I didn't ask for this. People treat me like it's a fundamental part of my life and I live with it happy as Larry, happy to blame everything on everyone else. That's so far from the truth it's unreal.

I completely hear and empathise with you.

If you grew up with everybody blaming you for things, it makes sense that you continue to blame yourself. I grew up this way and I am very hard on myself too.

Self Blame is so painful.. big hugs to you.

Along that line--it's easier to think we did something wrong because then we can "correct it" and win our parents' love, even though that may never happen because it's an issue with the parents, not with us. At a young age, to realize that our parents would never love us, no matter what we did, would be devastating.

I had to show compassion to my younger self and reparent myself before I felt less of the blame. I had to learn, in therapy, to give myself that love that my parents never gave me.

Crying I believe you said you were on the waiting list for therapy. If you can find a therapist you like there you will find the privacy you want to fully explore your issues.

I hope you will not have to wait too long.