[Eleny]

I haven't seen my boyfriend in a few days and I feel less close to him, and sort of detached. It's making me feel really panicked as I sense he feels less close to me too. We sometimes send each other x's, but I sent him some in my last message to him and he didn't send any back in his response.

I realise I sound really neurotic but it really has me in a panic. Once I feel a slight bit of distance I worry that it's over. But maybe it's normal to not be lovey dovey all the time? Maybe I'm totally overthinking? I can't tell.

I wish I didn't have BPD, so that I could feel normal and secure in relationships.

Any reassurance or advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

[Yzen]

He might not have had time to response. I overthink and can relate. I imagine the other person is not responding because of something personal, but it is most likely something simple....like the person not having time to message, busy with something, missed the message, or didn't think about responding.

I hope you hear back soon.

[Misfit Toy]

I was diagnosed with bipolar II but I am sure I have BPD. I worry about so much. I can't give anyone or anything time to work itself out. I panic at every little thing. The "wait and see" does not work for me. If I get the idea that my husband is mad, in danger, or any negative thing, I panic and feel I have to react now. I don't have any advice. I just understand your feelings.

Usually, what I panic about works itself out fine, and I feel like an idiot for worrying so intensely. I hope your worry works out fine and your boyfriend is just acting like any sane adult. I also hope you can be gentle with yourself either way. ((Hugs and support))

[BPDSora]

Hey Eleny!
I don't think my answer will be very helpful, but I'm just here to tell you that I completely understand how you are feeling.
I've gone through this so many times.. My boyfriend always tells me "you can't see someone's emotions or intentions through a text" and, although I realize he IS kind of right, I still do give a text a different interpretation when there is one heart less than usual, or no upper case, or no smiley and so on, and I'm pretty sure you do the same.
I really hope that you worked things out by now, and if I have to tell you one thing, just please always remember that if something makes you feel hurt, then it is important.
No matter how strange it may seem, your reaction to something is valid, and no, you're not neurotic, you just suffer from BPD and unfortunately, it's normal for you to feel this way sometimes-so don't worry. You're not neurotic.

Sending you lots of hugs, and good luck!!

Sorry for my bad English, I'm Italian