did your parents increase their abuse after your diagnoses of mental illness?

or were they always abusive at the same level.

my parents were always abusive, but, when I was first diagnosed, it did prompt them to hate me more and exclude me from the family

sometimes I feel if it wasn't for my mental health diagnoses, I'd not have been excluded so much (maybe not treated better,) but not excluded- being able to say goodbye to relatives and take part in big ocasions etc

[Albatross2008]

Before I had a mental health diagnosis, then when I had problems, family felt there was nothing wrong with me. I was merely being lazy, or I was attention-seeking. I needed to straighten up and fly right!

But getting the diagnosis only added one more weapon they could use against me. Now they had reason to ignore anything I say, because I'm messed up in the head and don't know what I'm talking about. They could also use it to gaslight me. I would talk about something I remember, and they'd say it didn't happen. It was just my imagination. Or they'd tell me I said or did something I don't remember saying or doing. When my memories don't line up with theirs, of course, that's just because I'm nuts. After all, which one of us has to see a shrink?

This is sad. I’m saddened that people are treated poorly based on simply being different than others. Rise above it. If you can. It’s the harder road but I hope there is a reward for it in the end. ❤️

Originally Posted by Arbie

Before I had a mental health diagnosis, then when I had problems, family felt there was nothing wrong with me. I was merely being lazy, or I was attention-seeking. I needed to straighten up and fly right!

But getting the diagnosis only added one more weapon they could use against me. Now they had reason to ignore anything I say, because I'm messed up in the head and don't know what I'm talking about. They could also use it to gaslight me. I would talk about something I remember, and they'd say it didn't happen. It was just my imagination. Or they'd tell me I said or did something I don't remember saying or doing. When my memories don't line up with theirs, of course, that's just because I'm nuts. After all, which one of us has to see a shrink?

I can relate to this in a way

my family were against me making decisions- for much of the same reasons really, they didn't think I was " sain enough" to do so

when ever I tried to make a decision they were like.. oh and what's easier?

me saving your life or you ****ing up your life

ugg

[BettysGranddaughter]

I can relate. After I began getting treatment, though, I had less and less contact with one side of the family, so they didn't really get a chance to treat me worse, but they would have if I had stuck around.

Still have to deal with little digs though, like an aunt who closed an email with "Be Well" after I confronted her about something she did.

They just don't to admit anything is wrong, and if someone in the family has a diagnosis, they don't know how to deal that so they put that person down further.

[Staying Inside]

Originally Posted by Arbie

Before I had a mental health diagnosis, then when I had problems, family felt there was nothing wrong with me. I was merely being lazy, or I was attention-seeking. I needed to straighten up and fly right!

But getting the diagnosis only added one more weapon they could use against me. Now they had reason to ignore anything I say, because I'm messed up in the head and don't know what I'm talking about. They could also use it to gaslight me. I would talk about something I remember, and they'd say it didn't happen. It was just my imagination. Or they'd tell me I said or did something I don't remember saying or doing. When my memories don't line up with theirs, of course, that's just because I'm nuts. After all, which one of us has to see a shrink?

I can totally relate. I assumed that I would be understood more after being diagnosed, (as proof of my issues, pain etc) but nope. I felt abandoned even more.