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Old Jul 14, 2018, 05:29 PM
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Yes another day, and not really better.
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Old Jul 14, 2018, 11:03 PM
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Has anyone heard from Kiya or Jan? I'm worried.

My brother in law moved in Saturday only to have me make a mad dash back to the hospital a few hours later in the dark. He couldn't breath and wouldn't let me call 911. I hate to think of how many red lights I ran or how fast I was going. Skidded into the ambulance Bay screaming he can't breath. They took him right in and worked on him for over 8 hours. Ended up he has pneumonia. The hospital knew he had an infection when they released him they should have done an X-ray or a CT scan. The ER did both. I sat there watching him gasping for air it wasn't pretty. The nurse said it's like his been running at full speed for hours. I drove home in a daze and told hubby what happened and broke down. Now he is being released and we don't want him here this was my worse nightmare and now I feel bad he was going home and he's scared but lord I am sick to and people think because I don't work that I just sit on my butt all day. So we told him this would not be the best place for him. He's upset and now I feel real bad because he is my husband's brother. I just don't know what to do anymore

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Old Jul 15, 2018, 06:16 AM
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I just don't know what to do anymore
Cake, it is NOT your responsibility to take care of everyone else! Life is like what flight attendants say about oxygen masks. You have to put yours on before you can help anyone else.

Let your husband take care of his brother or find some other solution to the problem. I know you worry about your daughter and he idiot boyfriend, but you need to set some boundaries with her yourself. Until you set some boundaries - and stick to them - your family is going to continue to take advantage of you.
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Old Jul 15, 2018, 07:29 AM
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The Fibromyalgia check in thread #4

i heard that Kiya is in the hospital, some kind of medical malfeasance... i didn't hear how she's doing, sadly~

Jan had a bad fall and is all bruised up and maybe cracked her arm...

apparently it's been a bad week for a lot of people~

Cake, sometimes caring too much is a sign of not understanding...
you do what you can, and 'fate' takes care of the rest~
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Old Jul 15, 2018, 05:30 PM
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Maybe, just maybe I am finally learning to accept limits on what I can do. I spent Friday busting my b-hind working at my Mom's house trying to get it ready to go on the market. Went back yesterday planning to do more. I was exhausted and sore when I got there. I decided the heavy physical stuff was going to have to wait. I loaded some small furniture items I want to keep in my truck. Did a walk through of the house starting to plan what else I'm going to bring home and what I want to get rid of. Then came home and unloaded the truck and crashed for the rest of the afternoon. Giving myself kudos for taking care of me.
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Old Jul 15, 2018, 09:23 PM
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The Fibromyalgia check in thread #4

good for you, Liz~!
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Old Jul 15, 2018, 09:34 PM
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I am sorry that Kiya is in the hospital. Sending positive vibes her way

Jan I am sorry you got hurt please take it easy

Gus you are an angel

Liz you are still my hero. But I am glad you have recognized that you have limits hopefully I will get there to

My brother in law came home today and he is lashing out on me for not letting him stay here. He doesn't get my illness nor does he recognize that he needs an attitude adjustment i am so tired it's. It funny no one came to the ER to wait with me. It was in the middle of the night but everyone knew. I should not have driven home by the time I left I had been up for 24 hours. I am just thankful I made it home before I became hysterical for the last two weeks I have cleaned downsized and organized stuff by myself.

Then to top things off my daughter moved back home. She has been her since the 5Th. This is the longest she has been away from him and you can see the change in her. She does have an appointment with a psychiatrist on Tuesday. She needs some kind of help. She's not helping much and it's a lot more work on me and we are getting on her but it's still up in the air if my brother in law is going to be using the spare room which is her old room. During the week she's using our son's room since he is going during the week. But McGee the cat is missing because my daughter brought home her big dog.

To much is going on. I need a vacation

Sending positive vibes to everyone and worry for those I missed. Gental hugs.

Oh Christina I need you to tell me one more time what's best to clean the microwave.
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Old Jul 16, 2018, 07:17 AM
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The Fibromyalgia check in thread #4

ooooh Cake~!!! as much as i love to hear from you, i just want to beat your family up~!

there's an old joke i like (german descendent): what is the german word for Mother ?? (MARTYR!) surely you are laying up treasures in heaven.....
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Old Jul 16, 2018, 03:28 PM
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worst i've been in ages today

not only did I fall (and hit my arm on a door), but I sat their in the middle of a path for 15 minits because I couldn't ****ing move

people must have been like... waaaaa. what the **** is she doing

honestly too out of it to notice anyway
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Old Jul 16, 2018, 03:29 PM
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and it feels like I'm going to have a major painful evening.

oh...... joy
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Old Jul 16, 2018, 05:29 PM
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ooooh Cake~!!! as much as i love to hear from you, i just want to beat your family up~!
I will second that. Gus, you hold 'em, I'll hit 'em.
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Old Jul 16, 2018, 05:34 PM
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I was (am) proud of myself for being sensible over the weekend. But.... I'm exhausted today and can feel a flare building. I am so dammed sick of this! I'm tired of being tired all the time.

I'm really scared about what's coming. I work with at risk kids in the school system. This is our slow time of year. The little darlings come back in a few weeks. What the hey am I going to do then?!?!

Two years until I can retire. I don't know if I can hang on that long...
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Old Jul 17, 2018, 02:29 AM
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A warm hello to all.

I've been reading here, while not writing much.
I am in the midst of a couple of transitions, mainly with medical care. My pdoc (of 20 years) has retired. My primary care doc is also retiring this year. Some care is being placed back upon other specialists, which makes more appointments and more cost for me.

I have met my new pdoc. We have had two 1 hour appts so far, all history-taking, and it's set of C-PTSD symptoms in a major way. She suggests we can slow it all down by giving me more time in between appts.; I just want to be done with it! I am a little surprised a practitioner spends the first two hours on recapping traumatic events. She needs to know; yet, does she need to know all at once? It's a lot.... a long history of trauma. Ugh

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Old Jul 17, 2018, 04:08 AM
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rant of the day

chairs that are too low

if I had it my way, I'd have a magic wand to just make all the chairs in the world a good fit

go to sit on one that's too low and it's click click click

all the time
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Old Jul 17, 2018, 04:12 AM
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quite clicky today as it is...
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Old Jul 17, 2018, 01:58 PM
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The Fibromyalgia check in thread #4

and here i am, always looking for chairs that are short enough, to not cut off the circulation below my knees~!
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Old Jul 17, 2018, 05:21 PM
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I just ordered some CBD oil. I'll let y'all know how/if it works.
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Old Jul 17, 2018, 11:41 PM
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I feel like I could sleep for days and when I get to sleep either someone wakes me up or the phome rings. Last night the land line rang at 10:45 pm. I didn't know I could move that quick it was the home health care place asking if they can deliver my brother in laws supplies hmmmmm no not here he's at home and by the way do you know it's almost 11 pm and my husband gets up for work at 3 am.

My brother in law is very pissed at me and saying not so nice things about me and so is his friend. Oh well my daughter moved back not sure I told you guys she moved back on the 5th with her big German Shepard who has food aggressive she has already drew blood twice on our English bull dog Sammy who is 10 years old. She has made McGee not want to come home sunny our senior cat seems to be holding his own but now that's another person another animal and I thought she would help me but boy was I wrong. Oh well

I am going to attempt to sleep in the front room with my boys aka cats. I got McGee in and he ate two cans of cat food.

I am sorry I worry about all of you but I really can't think know oh did I tell you that my brother in law and his friend thinks I just sit on my butt all day and watch tv walk a day in my shoes. Just one day

Ok night everyone if anyone hears from Jan or Kiya tell the, I am thinking about them I hope Christina is ok Liz make a countdown till retirement and each day cross one day off. Gus your pictures are awesome. Love you guys
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Old Jul 17, 2018, 11:41 PM
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Liz let me know how that CBD oil works
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Old Jul 18, 2018, 05:03 AM
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I wish my parents would stop abusing me by email

yes I know, nothing to do with Fibromyalgia what so ever- but I just have to rantt about it.

(if you want to know what I mean, look in childhood emotional neglect)

still in a lot of pain and had another sleepless night which doesn't help matters
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Old Jul 18, 2018, 05:04 AM
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I just ordered some CBD oil. I'll let y'all know how/if it works.


it's meant to be good that

do let me know how it works

actually seeing it mentioned a lot lately
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Old Jul 18, 2018, 06:38 AM
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Liz let me know how that CBD oil works
Will do Cake
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Old Jul 18, 2018, 06:40 AM
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Vortex, rant away hon. Plenty of us post about other things here because we know the others understand. Can you block your parents' email?
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Old Jul 18, 2018, 09:36 AM
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Vortex, rant away hon. Plenty of us post about other things here because we know the others understand. Can you block your parents' email?


I wish it was that simple.

then they just contact people I know and threaten them.... give me her new email or I'll

Possible trigger:


and of course, those people give them it because they are scared

and because they don't care

I have no one to talk about my family abuse too, and it really sucks
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Old Jul 18, 2018, 03:43 PM
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my meal sucked this evening.

honestly thought i'd enjoy chicken wings but turns out I didn't

I just can't cook that good
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