[Indie'sOK]

Could we create a subforum or something for those dealing with anger issues? I don't see any, just ones like Coping with emotions. Can't we have one specifically for anger?

This could be useful because I have issues with anger too. I need help dealing with anger. A anger forum would be nice.

[ECHOES]

Anger wouldn't "fit" in Coping with Emotions?

[sabby]

Yep, anger does fit in "Coping with Emotions" Forum. So there you go my friends! Post away

[Indie'sOK]

Sure it would fit, but I was wondering if there was one specifically for anger.......disregard I suppose then :/

[sabby]

No, not at this time Indy. Sorry hon.

I'm trying to remember some time ago when someone asked for an anger forum and I can't remember the reason why it wasn't created. It wasn't long after though that DocJohn made the Coping with Emotions forum. Let me see if it will come to this pea brain of mine. LOL

[FooZe]

Maybe just a teensy bit off topic but... when I was new here, another member posted something about anger that intrigued me then and still intrigues me now:

Originally Posted by Elysium

One thing that we learn in DBT is that anger is considered a secondary emotion. It acts as a coping skill almost for other emotions such as fear, disgust, sorrow, to block a person from feeling these emotions.

So my anger I had towards it really wasn't anger at all, I learned. It was fear!! Fear of failure, fear of something new, and even the fear of getting better, because if I got better, then I wouldn't know who I was anymore. Who would I be without all these issues? It's a scary question for anybody.

I have no idea whether it works that way for everyone, nor how you can easily find out if it does for you. If it did, though, I'd hate to think that a forum specifically for discussing anger might sometimes be a distraction from looking at what could be behind someone's anger.

This is just me. Your mileage may vary.

[Indie'sOK]

Thanks FooZe... I don't really know what it is for me. I have really bad anger issues because I tend to be blinded by my feelings.

[sabby]

One of my esteemed colleagues found this for me before I found it. LOL

This is what DocJohn's reply was to another member asking about having an anger forum.

Yeah, sadly that's one forum I'd have a hard time with, although I could see it's possible benefits... I don't think people could limit themselves to not wanting to rant about other members here, or something that happened to them in chat (which would involve other members indirectly), or something a mod or an admin did that they didn't like, etc. etc. Too many possibilities of hurting others...

However, it doesn't stop someone from starting a social group called the Scream Room or what not.

DocJohn

anger is too stigmatized

We could talk about our anger and how to get rid of it in the coping with emotions forum. I'm sure. Anger is emotion Scream room looks good to me. I would like to scream

[Indie'sOK]

LOL scream room

Anger IS too stigmatized...though I do love the movie Anger Management.

[lizardlady]

I've been a member of two mental health sites that had anger forums, including the predecessor to PC. I used the forums at both sites.

Having said that I agree with Doc John about not having a forum specifially for anger. What I saw at both of the other sites convinced me it's not a good idea. Threads quite frequently degenerated into flame wars. It could get REALLY ugly.

As others have suggested, how about using the coping with emotions forum?

[Indie'sOK]

Thank you for replying everyone....can't say I don't feel a big "ganged up on" at this point, but I can imagine how a forum for anger would get ugly - especially if the anger was obviously directed at other members!

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by Indie'sOK

Thank you for replying everyone....can't say I don't feel a big "ganged up on" at this point, but I can imagine how a forum for anger would get ugly....

When I read your initial post, I thought that an anger room might be a good idea, Indie'sOK. So don't feel that we're all ganging up on you. Not at all.

The points brought up by the head honcho's are sadly imaginable though. A sad reality of the internet world!

[Indie'sOK]

Originally Posted by shezbut

When I read your initial post, I thought that an anger room might be a good idea, Indie'sOK. So don't feel that we're all ganging up on you. Not at all.

The points brought up by the head honcho's are sadly imaginable though. A sad reality of the internet world!

Oh yes! Anonymity is a gift to those on the internet that get off on flaming others. Have you ever read the 'comments' section of news stories on Yahoo? It's where civility goes to die.

[Secretum]

Haha; I like the name "scream room". I only really get angry at inanimate objects (such as things made of glass that fall, or milk that spills...grrr RAGE!! haha), so I don't think I'd use such a forum much myself. But I could see how it could be useful. To avoid turning member against member, couldn't there simply be a rule against it? At the top of the depression forum, there is a reminder to not write suicidal posts. Couldn't the anger forum have a rule-with a reminder on every page-to respect others on PC and not rage against them? I'd imagine that most people's anger would stem from real life situations anyway...