[KarenSue]

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[Moreta]

I've been hanging out in the emotional support room trying to give support when needed. I do not know about every mental health illness though. I try to help when needed, but A LOT of people don't want to hear about the steps how I became better. I suggest to people what they should do to take back their lives, and most people brush it off. One person had the nerve to come into support chat a couple days back and said that he didn't get much out of the site. I worked with that person for a while, suggesting things they could do to take action. I felt very invalidated. I try to support the best I can, but I think sometimes people like to wallow in their own self pity. I got tired of doing that and I love sharing what I did to get better, but since it's not mainstream, people aren't as receptive. Yes, I take meds and go to therapy, but I'm trying different kinds of therapy and incorporating meditation and crystals and supplements into my mental health regime.

That being said. I usually just PM people in ES, to make sure their doing ok, and if not I help them talk about their problems. A lot of people won't speak up in chat. When there's chit chat going on I ask if people need emotional support. Sometimes people answer, sometimes not, but it's ultimately up to them to respond.

[Kek de la Doge]

Like others said, people go where other people are. And most people nowadays just go to emotional support, people who usually hang out at the Adult Room. Then more and more people come in, supporters and supportees alike (i dont give a heck if theyre real words tbh) are being FORCED to move to PMs. And why? So others can bring the usual adult-chat crap-posting? There should be moderation in ES all the time so it won't get derailed like it usually does, and for the past week it has happened way too much. Now, I've seen moogie the mod asking people to move to other chats, but he (\she? idk) isn't always there. I might not be the most qualified person to speak of support because I'm already "infamous" for my "villainy" in the chat realm, though, so take for this what you wish.

Someone brought up the issue that we all have, well... issues. And that's true. It is also true that not everyone is a psych or therapist. Well if you're neither, and you have literally nothing to contribute to the ES, what the hell are you doing there? Excuse me but that's just stupid. Mind you, I'm not talking about the sensitive individuals who prefer ES to Adult Chat because they're sensitive and they support each other there, without having any professional experience in being therapists.

For the issue of simply "hugging" and not actually giving any support, well, maybe that's the only way people can give support, and there's nothing wrong with it. Again, not everyone is a shrink.

Finally, there are THREE places for chit-chat. THREE. The Lobby, Coffeehouse, and Adult Chat. Four if you count Teen Chat. Just go there if you wanna chat about whatever, and invite your friends over there with you. It's not that difficult.

Cheers, fam.

[-jimi-]

This thread made me kind of confused. And there is no chat room where I should be it seems.

Not that it really matters.

[where_to_begin]

Maybe we need another room--something line "Emotional & Psych talk," where people who are not in crisis can discuss their issues. However, my bet would be that if a room like that were implemented in many less people being in the emotional support room--which would mean less people available to provide emotional support.

People have only started to gravitate towards ES recently, and for no particular reason. The obvious solution is for individual prominent users to take it upon themselves to avoid using ES for a few weeks unless they want to support or be supported, and use the Adult Chat or Coffeehouse instead, and the rest of chat will follow them.

[seesaw]

I agree with Steiner's comment completely. Nothing is broken in ES chat. In fact, the last few days I have seen it used quite appropriately and a lot. Here's what bothers me that I feel the need to bring up. I'm tired of members coming in, saying hi, getting greeted by a few or one or two, the conversation continues rolling along, and then that person bursts out, "well, I guess no one wants to ask me about my problem!" and leaves. We are not mind readers in Emotional Support. If you have a problem, it's your responsibility to bring it up. Otherwise we think you are just there to listen and perhaps offer support when someone else brings up an issue. This idea that support automatically defaults to the newest person in the room is ridiculous. I often go to ES and wait for people who need support or who have the same problems as me so we can empathize with each other and chat about our emotional problems, and this is the most common behavior I see. I say it again, we aren't mind readers and if someone wants to discuss a particular issue, they need to speak up. Otherwise, no one in the room knows that they need help and aren't just lingering.

Seesaw

[-jimi-]

I'm gonna say this and I know it sounds strange. But it's like there is something in the air. I belong to other forums and some of them have turned either really harsh and blunt or into true hatred of some groups of people. I know it's not me because others have seen it too. It's like people are on edge as a group.

That doesn't mean individuals cannot be nice cuz they can, but right now it is like the stars are all wrong or some crap like that.

I think it can only be healed with kindness and not by complaining, but myself I feel spent socially. It's like I sponged up the wall of negativity everywhere. And I'm not really one that is affected much by other people's moods.

We only have each other.

Possible trigger:

I have even been told by normally nice kind people it is time to start war or hurt others, burn buildings and so on... what the heck's happening??? (Not on this forum but I saw other type hatred here too...)

One Earth one people.

Pretty much it.

[DocJohn]

Hi folks,

I really appreciate all the thoughtful comments and insights made in this thread. But as others have said, I think emotional support chat room is not "broken" either. There are times where people just forget what room they're in, or don't mean to engage in overly social conversation in that room. Threads like this remind us all how important it is for those seeking emotional support to have a safe and supportive room to do so.

Since the issue has since been resolved, this thread is being closed.

Thank you,
DocJohn