[*Laurie*]

I suspect that a PC member is posting untrue information about herself. Am I supposed to contact an admin or am I supposed to ignore the behavior? It's a weird feeling to see people posting and posting with sympathy to someone when I suspect her stories are false.

I am concerned because many of us have been hurt by someone assuming a false identity in the recent past.

[Guiness187055]

The tough thing about that is it's hard to prove. If you tell admin you had better have all your ducks in a row. just my two cents.

There was a previous member who I knew was lying about their life right from the beginning of their membership and it was not taken seriously by administrators until the individual confessed and there was no doubt. They were then banned. I can certainly understand that proof is required but at the same time sometimes you just get a hunch that someone is being dishonest. It can be very frustrating, all you can do is try to gather evidence and bring it to the administrators.

[*Laurie*]

Thanks to both of you, I appreciate your replies. I'm suspicious because this person's 'facts' just don't match up. I guess there's not much I can do until she trips herself up.

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

Thanks to both of you, I appreciate your replies. I'm suspicious because this person's 'facts' just don't match up. I guess there's not much I can do until she trips herself up.

That is what I had to do with this previous member. Just be patient and if the individual is lying, they will get caught in it eventually.

[~Christina]

It’s a shame people need to lie about there life on a support site smh

Originally Posted by ~Christina

It’s a shame people need to lie about there life on a support site smh

i agree with this,
its really sad when people lie about their lives to receive support,
but the way i see it, they must really need the attention if they feel they have to lie to get it

[Crazy Hitch]

Unless someone confesses it’s hard to tell if a text font on the internet is being honest or dishonest.

What a shame though really it sucks all round. Yuck this thread hit a nerve *hits post quick reply and bolts out of thread.*

[eskielover]

There is nothing wrong with pointing out (flagging) the things that you are seeing to admin. That way they can also know to keep their eye on the persons posts.

Confronting descrepencies in the threads doesnt go well & is usually frowned upon (ugh, have been known to have done that in the past just asking questions about contradictions.....not a good idea) but i have PMed others posting with a simple beware message so they can keep their awareness also.....most have seen it to when i have done that.

Found that people csn only lie for so long even on the internet before they get caught in their lies & some just have disappeared rather than confess.

It is sad when people feel like they cant just be themselves where ever they are.

If you contact an admin, they will most likely speak with the person and ask them some questions. They are pretty good at figuring this type of thing out. I suggest that you do tell an admin though, because if you don't that person will continue hurting others and it will only get worse with time. And they need to know that their behavior is unacceptable. The sooner the better.

I'm sorry to anyone who has been hurt

[DocJohn]

I would look at this issue from another perspective, seeing as we're not private investigators, nor is our community a place where we require people to be truthful at all times about everything they write. We believe trust is earned by people sharing truthful things about themselves, and until a member has earned your trust, you should treat them as you might treat anyone you don't know.

We can't indict (or suspend or ban) people based on hunches.

And where did your belief come from? A set of verifiable facts, or a set of hunches that may have no connection to facts? Just because someone's story doesn't sound "right" to you doesn't mean it is untruthful. Are they a new(er) member, or have they been here for years with an established membership?

Since this thread is discussing another member in our community, we are going to close the thread. If you have concerns or don't want to be involved with another member, simply put them on your Ignore list and/or bring your concern to an Administrator. (And if you do the latter, we'd hope you'd provide us more information than, "I suspect so-and-so isn't being truthful..." We can't act on innuendo alone.)

Thanks.