[here today]

I started a thread and it was deleted -- I assume a moderator thought it was inappropriate, but I didn't get a message and I don't understand why.

I'll be honest, I'm a bit of a social dunce sometimes. Maybe that's because of my MI issues, or not, but in in case I would appreciate some clues?

[MickeyCheeky]

Tes, sometimes threads can be deemed inappropriate and be deleted, here today. I'd suggest to ask an Admin or a Moderator. Hopefully they will reply to this thread. Otherwise you could send them a PM. Sending many hugs to you

[here today]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Tes, sometimes threads can be deemed inappropriate and be deleted, here today. I'd suggest to ask an Admin or a Moderator. Hopefully they will reply to this thread. Otherwise you could send them a PM. Sending many hugs to you

I did send a PM to one moderator and haven't heard back. Is there a way to send a message to all of them? The one I PM'd may not have been the one to decide.

[MickeyCheeky]

I believe there is, if you put all their usernames into the "Recipients Usernames" box, but I don't think it's necessary. Just wait until they reply here or try to contact another one. Sending many hugs to you

[here today]

Thanks very much!

[lizardlady]

Originally Posted by here today

I did send a PM to one moderator and haven't heard back. Is there a way to send a message to all of them? The one I PM'd may not have been the one to decide.

You could "report" your original post in this thread. That way a message goes to the entire admin/mod team. Just click on the triangle at the lower left side of your post.

Originally Posted by here today

I started a thread and it was deleted -- I assume a moderator thought it was inappropriate, but I didn't get a message and I don't understand why.

I'll be honest, I'm a bit of a social dunce sometimes. Maybe that's because of my MI issues, or not, but in in case I would appreciate some clues?

I was just looking for it too and am guessing it's related to the mention of this thread where people sort of ganged up on someone for not changing their opinion. Even after the person said they felt traumatized, people 'liked' the post that targeted someone who said they felt highly distressed and obviously got reactive after a series of respectful posts. Ideally people can leave a thread if they feel distressed, but people who don't feel distressed or have trauma isses can avoid the thread.

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I think we're supposed to talk about these issues here rather that the psychotherapy forum.

Meant to say-maybe you can start a new thread and not mention being on someone's ignore list.

That may have been the 2nd issue or the main issue with the thread.

(There were a couple of us referencing the other event talking about 'disagreement'. I'm sorry if I contributed to that. This is not a good place for me to hang out and I realize that.

[here today]

Someone else has started a new thread with a different title and it presents some similar concepts in a different way, without the specific mention of a disagreement or anything like that.

It's somewhat disconcerting to me that you feel that this is not a good place for you to hang out. I'm wondering if there isn't some better way to handle disagreements -- if we are not allowed to mention them? I don't want to offend any of the administrators here -- I appreciate what PC has done and been here for me -- but my experience is that psychology and psychotherapy haven't offered me anything much in the way of how to handle conflicts, other than to walk away. And I think that is a dangerous situation, for me personally, in terms of losses, and for society generally.

Hence, a kind of idealistic idea on my part -- which the admins of PC may not like or agree with -- I've found it easier to step back and consider/integrate my response, if I want to make one, here online than in real life. It's provided me a social context in which to learn something that I didn't find in the mental health system, as I was able to find services.

Is anybody else interested in anything like that? And, if so, any suggestions about how we might go about it?

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by here today

I started a thread and it was deleted -- I assume a moderator thought it was inappropriate, but I didn't get a message and I don't understand why.

I'll be honest, I'm a bit of a social dunce sometimes. Maybe that's because of my MI issues, or not, but in in case I would appreciate some clues?

I'm sorry that has happened to you!

Originally Posted by here today

Someone else has started a new thread with a different title and it presents some similar concepts in a different way, without the specific mention of a disagreement or anything like that.

It's somewhat disconcerting to me that you feel that this is not a good place for you to hang out. I'm wondering if there isn't some better way to handle disagreements -- if we are not allowed to mention them? I don't want to offend any of the administrators here -- I appreciate what PC has done and been here for me -- but my experience is that psychology and psychotherapy haven't offered me anything much in the way of how to handle conflicts, other than to walk away. And I think that is a dangerous situation, for me personally, in terms of losses, and for society generally.

Hence, a kind of idealistic idea on my part -- which the admins of PC may not like or agree with -- I've found it easier to step back and consider/integrate my response, if I want to make one, here online than in real life. It's provided me a social context in which to learn something that I didn't find in the mental health system, as I was able to find services.

Is anybody else interested in anything like that? And, if so, any suggestions about how we might go about it?

This forum is the safest one I've ever used, and I think the moderation is good.

I'm talking about my PTSD triggers, when I see others support what looks to my like 'flying off the handle' or lack of empathy directed at someone who is clearly vulnerable. It's not so much individuals but the group dynamics that I find triggering. But it's not difficult for me to avoid participating when that happens.

I get triggered from merely watching the news even for a few seconds these days, so don't take my opinion as the mainstream.

In your thread you mentioned the person who ignored you, so I was saying start a new thread without referring to that situation. Or just wait to hear back-maybe a moderator can give you advice.

[here today]

Thanks very much for your suggestion. I think what you've said has helped me have a better understanding. I appreciate you taking the time to do that! I'm ready just to let it go, now that I understand somewhat better.

I agree that this forum generally feels pretty safe to me, and that the moderators let a lot fly under the radar, which I like. Let's people work things out for themselves, if they can. Sometimes we can't or don't. The group dynamics, like you said, but that's life I guess. And one of the things I like about this forum is that it gives me a relatively safe place to practice "life" -- usually without the possibly more dire consequences that might result IRL.

Again, thanks so much for your help.

[TheWell]

As the OP has had their question answered I am going to close this thread.