[felineangel]

just wondering

mine is currently empty, I don't understand people who fill their ignored list up and then complain when they don't get a lot of responses - cause anyone who would respond to them is blocked from responding

but i'm just wondering whether the ignored list can ever be full to the point that nobody else can get added onto it

[unaluna]

I would say no. Picture it not as a list on a single piece of paper where you run out of room, but as a stack of shoeboxes. You can just keep piling on shoebox after shoebox...

[felineangel]

Originally Posted by unaluna

I would say no. Picture it not as a list on a single piece of paper where you run out of room, but as a stack of shoeboxes. You can just keep piling on shoebox after shoebox...

Even with a shoebox, eventually you'll run out of room to stack them i think ?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by felineangel

Even with a shoebox, eventually you'll run out of room to stack them i think ?

Nope. Space is infinite!

[felineangel]

So in theory, someone could put literally everyone on the forum on ignored? As in literally ?

[felineangel]

Ignored list is a trigger for me, tbh

[felineangel]

could easily get into a spiral if i was to end up on one

already sending my anxiety rocket high in case i'm on one

another reason i dont keep anyone on mine, i have used it but i dont like using it cause even using it ends up triggering me, as in me having anyone on the list

idk how to switch it off

maybe i'm not making ense idk

shh felineangel

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by felineangel

could easily get into a spiral if i was to end up on one

already sending my anxiety rocket high in case i'm on one

another reason i dont keep anyone on mine, i have used it but i dont like using it cause even using it ends up triggering me, as in me having anyone on the list

idk how to switch it off

maybe i'm not making ense idk

shh felineangel

Think of it this way: anyone who would want to put you on an ignore list is not someone you want to be around, even virtually, anyhow. I know you are rejection sensitive, so try to remind yourself that you don't have to be liked by everyone. You still have value and worth.

[ArtleyWilkins]

Also remember that people use the ignore function for various reasons. It isn’t always about them rejecting you. It might be that they are perhaps protecting themselves from being triggered by something. It can simply be a matter of self-care on their part. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong.

[felineangel]

Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

Also remember that people use the ignore function for various reasons. It isn’t always about them rejecting you. It might be that they are perhaps protecting themselves from being triggered by something. It can simply be a matter of self-care on their part. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong.

Last time I saw the message, from what I remember, it was accusing, like "YOU are being ignored so YOU are a bad person" etc etc, it doesnt sit right with me when a sentence starts with YOU cause tbh it sounds accusing, idk if i'm over reacting over sentences starting with "you"

Cause I can't see the difference between accusing and non-accusing when it begins with YOU

for example:

"YOU are a mad axe murderer" reads no different to me than "YOU are being ignored by this person" cause it starts with you so its basically accusing me

i think thats stems back from a family member yelling at me saying "your a hoe" after i got sexually abused by a driving instructor, and instead of being like "he is responsible for his actions" even the family who wasnt there was like "maybe you'll feel better if you have a female instructor" which again, even now it feels like that abuse was getting put on me as being my fault

And when I say hoe, I don't mean the spade's friend in the garden shed

[felineangel]

YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU

accusing felineangel

next be accusing felineangel of being responsible for Ebony's cancers

cause YOU is accusing

the word YOU

[felineangel]

please don't use the word on the front of a sentence cause i been taught that YOU is accusing

[felineangel]

making me unwell now

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by felineangel

So in theory, someone could put literally everyone on the forum on ignored? As in literally ?

This was a good question. Because it showed how you could run out of space on a piece of paper if you tried to list them, but you dont run out of screens on the forum member list, they just increase in number.

I dont put people on ignore because i sometimes start common threads, like The Couch in the psychotherapy forum, or in the technical forum when something weird happens like this past weekend when we experienced a whiteout!

I agree, it feels bad to see the message that you cannot reply to this thread because you are on this users ignore list (not that i have it memorized or anything!). But i guess i need a muzzle, is what it boils down to!

[felineangel]

The spade and the wheelbarrow are the hoe in the shed's friends

and i am meaning gardening this time

[felineangel]

Originally Posted by unaluna

This was a good question. Because it showed how you could run out of space on a piece of paper if you tried to list them, but you dont run out of screens on the forum member list, they just increase in number.

I dont put people on ignore because i sometimes start common threads, like The Couch in the psychotherapy forum, or in the technical forum when something weird happens like this past weekend when we experienced a whiteout!

I agree, it feels bad to see the message that you cannot reply to this thread because you are on this users ignore list (not that i have it memorized or anything!). But i guess i need a muzzle, is what it boils down to!

i think the exceptions would be the admin i dont think admin can get put on the ignored list

idk about moderators, idk what would happen if someone who was on someone elses ignored got put as moderator, whether the forum would crash or what would happen

cause the forum would get confused and switch itself off

idk i'm probably not making sense

[unaluna]

Yeah my mom was worried about getting on the computer because she was afraid she would do something like that and it would cause the whole internet to crash.

Truth is, you have to try really really hard to break the internet. And thats not enough really's! Usually if you think you broke something, its only on your own device and you just have to clear your cookies!

[OafFish]

I’ve never had to put someone on ignore fortunately

[divine1966]

You got me laughing about someone putting bunch of people on ignore lists and then complain that no one responds on their threads 🤣🤣🤣

Ignore feature is very useful but if someone wants to put the entire forum on ignore, they won’t see anything, it will be a blank page, you can’t see posts from people on your ignore list. That would be funny 😆

[TishaBuv]

I feel badly, too, if someone puts me on ignore. It’s happened a few times. Usually I know why…because I said something they didn’t like. I did internalize it, feeling badly that they didn’t like me. But also, I self reflected on that I said something to them that was wrong, obnoxious, triggering. There was a time or two when I had no idea what I had done. I did internalize it feeling badly that they just didn’t like me for some reason. But, as bad as that feels, I suppose that is okay. Not everyone has to like me. I can try to be more kind so not to get put on ignore (online and irl).

Thanks for being brave in bringing up the emotions around this, felineangel.

[felineangel]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I feel badly, too, if someone puts me on ignore. It’s happened a few times. Usually I know why…because I said something they didn’t like. I did internalize it, feeling badly that they didn’t like me. But also, I self reflected on that I said something to them that was wrong, obnoxious, triggering. There was a time or two when I had no idea what I had done. I did internalize it feeling badly that they just didn’t like me for some reason. But, as bad as that feels, I suppose that is okay. Not everyone has to like me. I can try to be more kind so not to get put on ignore (online and irl).

Thanks for being brave in bringing up the emotions around this, felineangel.

I've never put you on ignored - just saying in case anyone thinks i did, I've only put someone else on ignored for a short time after the member in question said something that felt to me like a attack (and it still feels even now like they were attacking me)

but anyways my list has been empty for a while now and I'm not currently using it, I want to switch it off but don't know how to switch ignored list off, don't see anything in my settings for switching my own list off

unless i'm being a dumbarse

[DocJohn]

There is no limit on the size of one's personal ignore list.

People should not speculate about why a post or thread doesn't get a lot of replies. It usually has nothing to do with a person's ignore list and is just a result of people either not seeing the thread or not having anything they think will add to it.

People also shouldn't speculate about why another member is on an ignore list. It is a self-help tool we provide to all members to ensure they have a safe experience here. Speculating about other members and their motivations is not in keeping with our community guidelines.

[felineangel]

Originally Posted by DocJohn

There is no limit on the size of one's personal ignore list.

People should not speculate about why a post or thread doesn't get a lot of replies. It usually has nothing to do with a person's ignore list and is just a result of people either not seeing the thread or not having anything they think will add to it.

People also shouldn't speculate about why another member is on an ignore list. It is a self-help tool we provide to all members to ensure they have a safe experience here. Speculating about other members and their motivations is not in keeping with our community guidelines.

I've known it to not be used as self-help tool, its been used against me previously literally just to accuse me of stuff cause like i said last time it began with "you" here, (last time i saw it) and cause it began with "you" it was used as a way of being against me cause at the time, the message began with "you"

and like i said previously "you" is accusing

just saying, not trying to start a fight with admin or anything by posting this

felineangel learned years ago not to take on a admin cause she can't win

she'll post in third person now cause dissassoctiations and posting in third person mean she can't get anything done to her

tried to post this and it opened a advert instead, felineangel broke it and she'll get accused of breaking the internets now

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by seesaw

Think of it this way: anyone who would want to put you on an ignore list is not someone you want to be around, even virtually, anyhow. I know you are rejection sensitive, so try to remind yourself that you don't have to be liked by everyone. You still have value and worth.

[felineangel]

Originally Posted by seesaw

Think of it this way: anyone who would want to put you on an ignore list is not someone you want to be around, even virtually, anyhow. I know you are rejection sensitive, so try to remind yourself that you don't have to be liked by everyone. You still have value and worth.

your amazing, seesaw

just saying