[Trace14]

When I started my healing journey I was very discouraged that it was taking so long and I didn't feel like progress was being made. Many told me to be patient and that I was making progress, but I really didn't want to hear that. I wanted to know how to fix it NOW.
So for those beginning your healing journey listen to this advice and don't get frustrated that there is not magic pill, no magic therapy, and support. It takes time and a combination of all the above to move forward. There will be set backs. Healing doesn't occur on a straight line, it's more a wavy line with ups and downs, with both being important. Find support, educate yourself and get the help you need. That's the best advice I could give a person starting this healing journey. Stay strong.

[Trace14]

Also, did anyone else feel like they were consumed with trying to learn as much about your condition as you could. Or maybe try to disprove what you were told?

[Wild Coyote]

In the beginning, I was very interested in the theories.
However, over time, I'd learned most pieces of info are simply more theory and will change with time. Eventually, it did not make sense to me to invest too heavily in theories, as they'd simply keep changing and were not very helpful.

It's admirable that researchers are interested in helping, yet there are no guarantees with the theories, no absolute truths. Its still hit or miss, with a large percentage of miss. Sadly. Techniques/methods are "talked up" a lot; yet, I hear very few rave reviews by those suffering. Blanket claims/statements are very misleading. There is no magic bullet.

I have seen some of the top researcher/experts. They do not recommend the techniques they write about in their articles/books/talks in my case. They know it's truly not a "one size fits all' type of healing venture.

It's the same for many other conditions, as well.

The payoff is in finding what works for each individual.


WC

[RoseOfSharon]

I read avidly (obsessively?) about conditions. While I know I can go over the top, sometimes it really does help with self-compassion, understanding myself better.
Yes, healing takes time, and is, in my experience, a spiral experience. Now 50, I was first in therapy in my early 20s and have not been in therapy for about 18 years. Now just starting again, with someone who specialises in trauma, and will have my first emdr treatment this Thursday. While it can be depressing to realise how long healing takes, I can also look back at how much healing has taken place over the years, most of all in that I now and accept that there are people in my life who love and care about me.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

In the beginning, I was very interested in the theories.
However, over time, I'd learned most pieces of info are simply more theory and will change with time. Eventually, it did not make sense to me to invest too heavily in theories, as they'd simply keep changing and were not very helpful.

It's admirable that researchers are interested in helping, yet there are no guarantees with the theories, no absolute truths. Its still hit or miss, with a large percentage of miss. Sadly. Techniques/methods are "talked up" a lot; yet, I hear very few rave reviews by those suffering. Blanket claims/statements are very misleading. There is no magic bullet.

I have seen some of the top researcher/experts. They do not recommend the techniques they write about in their articles/books/talks in my case. They know it's truly not a "one size fits all' type of healing venture.

It's the same for many other conditions, as well.

The payoff is in finding what works for each individual.


WC

I ordered books and books and books, but wasn't in a place to read them. Now I don't want to It would be information overload and too overwhelming for me. But I will keep them and maybe read them sometime. Thanks for the feedback.
That's true that there is no one size fits all for everyone.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by jennykt

I read avidly (obsessively?) about conditions. While I know I can go over the top, sometimes it really does help with self-compassion, understanding myself better.
Yes, healing takes time, and is, in my experience, a spiral experience. Now 50, I was first in therapy in my early 20s and have not been in therapy for about 18 years. Now just starting again, with someone who specialises in trauma, and will have my first emdr treatment this Thursday. While it can be depressing to realise how long healing takes, I can also look back at how much healing has taken place over the years, most of all in that I now and accept that there are people in my life who love and care about me.

Thanks for responding and I'm glad you have stepped back into the therapy and self care ring. Stay with it and stay strong.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Also, did anyone else feel like they were consumed with trying to learn as much about your condition as you could. Or maybe try to disprove what you were told?

Not consumed, determined to get better, and since I no longer have a PD NOS on paper which I believe represented the complex part of my PTSD on my paper I believe I have gotten better.

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Originally Posted by Trace14

Also, did anyone else feel like they were consumed with trying to learn as much about your condition as you could. Or maybe try to disprove what you were told?

Google was my friend for quite a while when I was researching on my MI. It has given way to a more intuitive approach. Just feeling out what works for me.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by leomama

Not consumed, determined to get better, and since I no longer have a PD NOS on paper which I believe represented the complex part of my PTSD on my paper I believe I have gotten better.

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That's great!!

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Fharraige

Google was my friend for quite a while when I was researching on my MI. It has given way to a more intuitive approach. Just feeling out what works for me.

Yes, you do have to find what works for you and once you find it the healing journey is a little easier to travel, so I've heard.

[babkababy]

Hello, I'm new to the forum. I was wondering if there is/was anything that your spouses or family living with you can do to help you stay grounded? I don't know if this is the correct place on the forum to ask these questions.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by babkababy

Hello, I'm new to the forum. I was wondering if there is/was anything that your spouses or family living with you can do to help you stay grounded? I don't know if this is the correct place on the forum to ask these questions.

Hello babkababy and welcome to the forum. This would have been a good thread to start for the forum. But back to your question, really staying grounded is something you will have to do personally but your friends and family can be educated on what things trigger you and that should help your process. I may start another thread for you so maybe more responses will come in. If that's okay with you. Or we can just see who responds here.

[babkababy]

Thank you Trace14, I would like it very much if you would start a new thread