[babkababy]

As a sufferer of complex trauma have you ever threatened to leave your spouse that treated you well? To live alone by yourself. Why? Does your spouse affirming that they love you and will not abandon you help ground, soothe you?

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by babkababy

As a sufferer of complex trauma have you ever threatened to leave your spouse that treated you well? To live alone by yourself. Why? Does your spouse affirming that they love you and will not abandon you help ground, soothe you?

There could be different reasons for feeling this way. But the only way to find any resolve to this would be for both parties to get involved in counseling, individual and couples. Find out the core problem and work on it to make the relationship work out, if that's what both parties want. Having that love and support from a spouse is a dream come true for many people. But if it's not the love and support you need, that needs to be discussed with a professional. You both deserve to be loved and happy, sometimes that takes a little work, but it's worth it

[Open Eyes]

Hi babkababy, I see you are a new member, welcome to psych central and the PTSD forum.

PTSD or Complex PTSD does have symptoms where the individual struggling feels very vulnerable and confused and has a hard time trusting and can have a desire to run or feel they are not worthy or would be too much of a burden. It can be very hard to explain it to others, so often "yes" a desire to want to run or be alone can happen. Someone who suffers can get overwhelmed and have a hard time explaining it to others, or even understanding it themselves.

It's very important to find a good therapist that knows how to work with trauma patients and even meet with family to explain it to family members. YES, there are situations where a wife may want to distance even though her husband is very good to her and loves her. There is a lot of guilt and shame in the challenge, but with therapy the person struggling can make gains on these symptoms.

Please know that you are welcome to vent/share/ask questions here in this forum too. Also, if you don't get an answer right away that only means other members have not had a chance to see your thread/question yet ok?