[Northgirl16]

Hi everyone,

New to this but I have complex PTSD and it really affects my relationships. I feel unable to commit.... Normal?

[Hidden1111]

Hi. I'm new here too and I also have complex PTSD. Since this is just me and my experiences I hope what I share helps you feel the belonging I feel like we all long for.

It is very difficult for me to commit now. When I was young and had many more memory blocks I committed all the time, and acted like if I created my own family then it would prove I wasn't from "them" and every relationship failed. I've had 4 divorces and 3 or more broken long term relationships. So lots of failure.
But now, for over three years. I won't date or have anyone kind of ... romantical stuff. I'm just so scared. I also know that sometimes I am mean to partners sometimes and I don't want to be that person. I've finally reached a place where when men try to be close to me I get that"I don't like men thing.
I wish you lots of belonging here. I have no advice and don't think I should. We all grow and change at our own pace. Right? Gosh, this was a harder topic for me than I thought. Hope I made sense.
Hidden1111

[Open Eyes]

Yes, it's normal to struggle with committing to a relationship when struggling with complex PTSD. There is a deep reason for that because most who struggle have been badly hurt, especially when they dared to love and care about. The biggest challenge is fearing being hurt and that is because someone struggling is already hurt and sensitive.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by Northgirl16

Hi everyone,

New to this but I have complex PTSD and it really affects my relationships. I feel unable to commit.... Normal?

Yes, sorry to say. But at least you have identified where the issue is, good job. Now if you really care about someone maybe find some couples counseling and work through this together.