[RockabillyMama80]

A few months ago, my husband told me that he didn't remember a lot of the last half of last year, like our anniversary, thanksgiving or anything really. He's been very disconnected off and on since his meltdown in August. Can anyone else relate to that. He also acted WAY out of charcter!

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RockabillyMama80

A few months ago, my husband told me that he didn't remember a lot of the last half of last year, like our anniversary, thanksgiving or anything really. He's been very disconnected off and on since his meltdown in August. Can anyone else relate to that. He also acted WAY out of charcter!

Yes, I can relate. It sounds like dissociation and he really needs to talk to a MH provider about that. The disconnection also sounds familiar. So many conditions have the same symptoms it can be very hard to sort out what is what. That's why a MH provider needs to be seen about all this and give you and your husband an idea of how to handle these situations.

[RockabillyMama80]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Yes, I can relate. It sounds like dissociation and he really needs to talk to a MH provider about that. The disconnection also sounds familiar. So many conditions have the same symptoms it can be very hard to sort out what is what. That's why a MH provider needs to be seen about all this and give you and your husband an idea of how to handle these situations.

Thank you. Yes, I totally agree he needs a professional. I've told him and he says he's not ready. It's a little frustrating. I bought Walker's book, though. I just started it and I'm going to suggest he read it, too. I've got to be very careful right now in my approach with him.

[RockabillyMama80]

About 2 months ago, shortly after we moved, he came across the racing bib from our 5K on Thanksgiving. It's sort of a loose tradition for us to run it every year. So he asked me, "Did we run a 5K this last time?"

"Yes."

"Just a few months ago?"

"Yeah."

"Hm. Where did we go for Thanksgiving?"

I'm in awe right now. "Um...my mom's."

He starts to think more deeply. "OOOOH...yeah!"

"You don't remember honey?"

"No."

"What else don't you remember?"

"I've forgotten everything from September when I came back until right before Christmas. Did we do anything for our anniversary?"

"Not really."

At this point, light bulbs are going off in my head because it makes SO much sense as to why he was acting like he did! Then right before Christmas, he seemed a lot more like himself. This went on for about 3-4 weeks. Also, from mid November until Feb 1, he was working out of town again (where we live now).

So, I know that being away from us for so long last year, probably didn't help with his dissociation.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RockabillyMama80

About 2 months ago, shortly after we moved, he came across the racing bib from our 5K on Thanksgiving. It's sort of a loose tradition for us to run it every year. So he asked me, "Did we run a 5K this last time?"

"Yes."

"Just a few months ago?"

"Yeah."

"Hm. Where did we go for Thanksgiving?"

I'm in awe right now. "Um...my mom's."

He starts to think more deeply. "OOOOH...yeah!"

"You don't remember honey?"

"No."

"What else don't you remember?"

"I've forgotten everything from September when I came back until right before Christmas. Did we do anything for our anniversary?"

"Not really."

At this point, light bulbs are going off in my head because it makes SO much sense as to why he was acting like he did! Then right before Christmas, he seemed a lot more like himself. This went on for about 3-4 weeks. Also, from mid November until Feb 1, he was working out of town again (where we live now).

So, I know that being away from us for so long last year, probably didn't help with his dissociation.

He really needs to go to his primary care and let them check him out. You tell them what's going on and go from there.

[RockabillyMama80]

Originally Posted by Trace14

He really needs to go to his primary care and let them check him out. You tell them what's going on and go from there.

He does. I keep encouraging him to do that.