C-PTSD spouse dissociating and lashing out.

I know he's stressed, but he's going back to being harsh with me again. We were drinking wine last night and suddenly, he just went off on me for something I had said to our son earlier. Granted, what I said was totally wrong, I own that, but he just would not be fair when I pointed out that he has said stuff, too. He yelled at me when I slammed the bathroom door out of frustration. We haven't had an argument like that in a while. It was awful. He started to look at hotels to sleep at last night, but just went to sleep in our bed. He can be so sweet, considerate and loving, then just as mean and cold.

He may not be able to handle alcohol if he struggles with PTSD. Is he in therapy?

Unfortunately, no. I've tried several times to tell him it would help him. He just refuses right now. I'm close to giving him an ultimatum, get help or we separate until you do.

He should be getting help with this so he can develop some managing skills.

I agree. He knows it, too. IDK why he rejects help. I know he went to counseling as a kid and has had help before with depression. I guess he hates to admit that he needs it?