[CalamityJane425]

I'm still up don't want to go to bed just yet. Oh boy am I angry with my Mother over how insensitive she truly is! I called her to tell how frightened I was over all the fireworks & I mentioned how I sort of got a sense how what my stepfather must have went through in Vietnam. However my Mom starts in on what happened to HIM! when I was talking about ME! I really didn't need to hear the stories about what he went through. My Mother seems to be in such denial over what she put me through when she left my Father as a toddler causing all the severe trauma which I still have not recovered from. She seems to have a selective memory when it comes to her damage. She just doesn't take any accountability. I'm so mad that I'm swearing. It's the only thing that makes me feel better. My Mother is crazy. I hate having a crazy Mother, worse still I hate having a crazy Mother who is so out of touch that she doesn't even realize HOW she is triggering me. So what I did was I kept interrupting her when she went into those war stories of my stepfathers. Let me tell you everyone it sucks having a crazy Mother. All I know is that she better not come back to me to stay with me when she grows tired of her Husbands abuse. She has done just that twice to me, and she is so, so needy, demanding, and just no fun at all.

[Open Eyes]

I am sorry that your mother doesn't know HOW to be THERE for you. Why do you keep asking her for something she doesn't know how to do, never did and probably never will? Sorry to learn your mother is with an abusive partner, sounds like she doesn't feel she is worthy enough to have a partner that can treat her nicely.

It sounds like you have a lot of anger because you wanted her to mother you and she failed you that way and you ended up having her depend on YOU which you don't want.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by CalamityJane425

I'm still up don't want to go to bed just yet. Oh boy am I angry with my Mother over how insensitive she truly is! I called her to tell how frightened I was over all the fireworks & I mentioned how I sort of got a sense how what my stepfather must have went through in Vietnam. However my Mom starts in on what happened to HIM! when I was talking about ME! I really didn't need to hear the stories about what he went through. My Mother seems to be in such denial over what she put me through when she left my Father as a toddler causing all the severe trauma which I still have not recovered from. She seems to have a selective memory when it comes to her damage. She just doesn't take any accountability. I'm so mad that I'm swearing. It's the only thing that makes me feel better. My Mother is crazy. I hate having a crazy Mother, worse still I hate having a crazy Mother who is so out of touch that she doesn't even realize HOW she is triggering me. So what I did was I kept interrupting her when she went into those war stories of my stepfathers. Let me tell you everyone it sucks having a crazy Mother. All I know is that she better not come back to me to stay with me when she grows tired of her Husbands abuse. She has done just that twice to me, and she is so, so needy, demanding, and just no fun at all.

Why did you call her?

[SaharaSon]

Jane, I'm sorry you are struggling with your mom. I've had my problems with my mom, too. We are used to looking at moms as being infallible. They most definitely are not. If we look at moms as having a whole set of psycological challenges like we have, it will help us to give them alot more room to be wrong. Sometimes we expect too much from them without giving serious consideration to their own hang ups. Love them anyway. Shalom.