[Fuzzybear]

I think that for many of us, some of our worst abusers used words like “should” - and of course obviously ugly and scary words probably while making threats or worse

I try not to use the word should much, it isn’t one of my favourite words

Are you mindful of the words you use to self and others? (Even those you “don’t like” etc ) I know this can be difficult or even impossible if severely triggered. Time to use the “crisis line” etc if this is the case (hasn’t worked for me ) btw in answer to a question in another thread I’m in the UK (not the USA)

I’m not thinking about anyone here in this forum re this post... was thinking of something recently posted in another forum. Interpersonal conflicts do occur online as they do everywhere at times (obviously )

Respectful regards

[HD7970GHZ]

Big hugs Fuzzy Bear,

I certainly struggle with internal dialogue / negative self-talk. I am trying to be more aware of my words including the judgements like "should."

I wish you a wonderful restful day Fuzzybear.

Hd7970ghz

[Shazerac]

I can so relate. My favorite self talk abuse is the "should" word. I should be doing better. I should be doing more with my life. I should go out with friends more. Should should.....bleh!

I get the other old time favorites. I'm lazy, stupid, useless, selfish, fat, ugly. Blah blah blah.

1 of the things I do a lot is speak out loud curse words.

like.. I am, followed by a curse word, because I actually believe that I am, that's how my parents made me feel, so that's how I am.

with others i'm usually quite mindful (or I try to be )

sometimes, like you say, if you're triggered, it's difficult- and their's been times where i've been really insensitive

[SoupDragon]

I was very abusive to myself when I first started therapy. It was the loudest voice in my head. It's much quieter generally these days.