Hatred beyond anything I've felt before

I HATE our roommate. Hate him. I just do. Everytime he walks past I get that anger irritated feeling, everytime he does something I hate him, everytime I hear him it's the same. Yet I've known him since I was born and my Dad has known him since before I was born, so that's like 18 - 15 years practically.

But I hate him.

He talks to himself all the time if he thinks no one is around and it's weird.. like it's not just explaining to yourself what you're gonna do that day to organize yourself, he does it and like trash talks people or something and he swears like CONSTANTLY when he does it and i know because my walls are paper thin and I can pick up on it. he even does it in the shower >_>

He never minds his own business. He's always getting into what my brother is doing like he's the second Dad. It's so annoying, though not as bad as before where he would literally put his hands ON my brother and push him around, and lock him in his room and hold the door shut (yes he has done this before and I have punched him for doing so). This morning I woke up at 7: 30am cause this guy was knocking on my brother's door to wake him up and tell him he had to go to school. I had to go there and tell him that my brother is SICK and my DAD said he was staying home today, and that he should just mind his own business because it has no affect on him what my brother does, it's my job, not his. But now thanks to him my sick little brother is NOT sleeping, and sitting on the computer by the window you can't close.

I could go on and on about this guy, I hate him so much, it's like not even funny. He's been here about 5 years or so, he's helping to pay rent and the car insurance, and that's IT. But he acts like he's part of our family. My Dad hates him too, the guy is a little off.. he plays computer games all day, and gets excessively angry over the littlest things.. watches my dad constantly..

He's 43, he's creepy, I hate him, but he's not leaving anytime soon. I hate feeling the anger and irritation every time I see him, i dont know how to deal with his.. existence anymore.

Hey little one

Anger is normal and natural...and especially natural for a teenager

I don't know you whole living situation.. you never mention your Mum? So assume you live with you dad and brother.. i could be wrong. You seem to take on the motherly duties with you brother. Thats great but remember to save some time for you to be you too.

Is the guy that is living with you all renting a room? I suppose that financially it helps out so there is not much that can be done. Money is money... everyone needs it.

Have you talked with your dad about setting boundaries for this guy? Especially when it comes to 'parenting' - he shouldn't really be involved imo.

I do hope that the anger passes... punch and kick a pillow... scream when you are in the shower... go for a walk and vent your frustrations.

You are a great person x

Yeah I don't live with my mother.. She's not exactly the "mothering" type.

He doesn't exactly have a "room" but we have constructed a wall using my desk and books shelves in the living room, as well as his dresser and other furniture, to block of our would-be dining area for him. It leads into the kitchen and has closing shutter doors so it is like a room except without a full wall.. but it's high enough.. a least 5 foot 3+.

For boundaries, they are told CONSTANTLY. All the time, everyday, my Dad tells him he has no RIGHT to take my brother's toys, or put his hands on him. My brother has every right to make noise and watch TV, go into the kitchen and make himself food (yes because his room leads to the kitchen he thinks he owns it or something. My brother will walk into the kitchen and one of two things ALWAYS happens. Either a.) our roommate will assume he's coming to bother him and will yell at him, or B.) my brother makes it to the fridge and opens it and a second later, roommate is there telling him to get out and stop wasting electricity >_>) Our roommate acts like he's doing us a big favour but in reality he's just constantly stepping over the line.

I tell our roommate too to mind his own business, I did so this morning. It's none of his concern. When my brother is making noise, he's a 9 year old boy, he makes noise, I put on my headphones, put on the music, and wow magically it disappears. Our roommate USED to do this, but all of a sudden he just felt like not doing it anymore and his bossiness has stepped up 10 times since then. I've gotten into arguments with this guy, and he does 99% of this when my Dad is at work or at the store. Screaming matches too. It's been going on for 5 years and there have points where it's gotten so bad that I had to lock myself in my room and cry over stress and frustration.

He's ALWAYS trying to get my brother into trouble, it's like he has something against the kid. What's worse is that my brother gets mixed messages. When my Dad is around the roommate is all nice to my brother and laughs at the videos he shows him and all that, so my brother thinks that he's his friend now. But as soon as Dad leaves it's like he becomes the devil, and it's sickening.

Sounds like he should mind his own business or find another place to live. I also hate 2 people ATM and I'm grappling with the moral implications of feelings it. So yes I know what it feels like to hate someone. You don't have to tolerate a bully in your own house.

sounds like this guy needs to find another place to live. idk. u said he helps out with the rent. is this absolutely a necessity? perhaps your dad could find someone else to move in if that's the case. i'd speak with dad about how much this guy is disrupting the household when dad isn't home, etc.

My Dad knows about the problems, they were worse a few years ago, and they have gone down a lot with my Dad's help, and as my brother got older, but there is still the basic issues.

My Dad doesn't really have "friends". He doesn't really consider our roommate his friend, but someone who he has known since before I was born. It is necessary that he stays, or else we could not afford to live here.

Basically, it's turned out to be a test of tolerance, but it's hard to tolerate such a person. Dad is on his breaking point too and if we could afford it, we would be kicking him out onto the streets.