No more emotions!

hannie2223 · Feb 11, 2011, 07:52 PM

I'm so emotionally overloaded I just want to shut down completely. I'm a very emotional people without the help of any outside stimuli. My mother has descibed me as intense ever since I was 2 week old. She always told me I just came this way. If I feel something I feel it to its fullest. But I'm so sensative to other emotions. If someone cries I want to cry. If everyone is happy and silly I find myself feeling that way.

My coworker was in a royal pissy mood. Every little molehill is this giant mountain to her. She wants me to feel sorry for her. To offer to do everything for her. She used to really take advantatge of me with that. I'd feel bad for her and I'd do her job while she skipped home early. I've gotten to where I don't offer. I just say well that's sucks or whatever. I make her ask me. But today she was just so *****y I just couldn't stand it. I was all ready frustrated from home stuff. I got off work just overloaded with extra emotions. I don't know where to put them or even which ones are really mine. Ugh...I might just curl up in a ball until I feel better..or feel nothing. Either would be fine.

IceCreamKid · Feb 11, 2011, 11:50 PM

Just an observation here: your mother telling you what an emotional person you are for your entire life just about guaranteed it would be true.

Feb 12, 2011, 12:02 AM

Hello, hannie2223.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...er-boundaries/
http://searchwarp.com/swa253529.htm
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...-the-workplace

(JD) · Feb 12, 2011, 02:00 AM

I think it's very important for sensitives to learn how to block other people's energies and also stop sending too much of their own energy out to others. You need to protect yourself when you sense that you are empathizing to an extreme, and not allow the other person to drain you of your good energy. Once they realize they no longer get that from you, they'll move on to someone else who they can sap.

It could also be that you are relating to other's situations because you have not dealt with your own that they remind you of (trigger?). Learn to recognize when this begins, and again, stop it/block it. Once you gain control of your own energy, you can use it to help yourself more and then to help others better.

Leed · Feb 12, 2011, 05:29 PM

I think you made alot of PROGRESS today -- you didn't OFFER to help her!! You didn't say much of anything~ That's WONDERFUL! This person is definitely a USER, and she had you pegged from the beginning. Now, you've found your voice -- you're not going to be used anymore and thank God for that. I'm proud of you! That takes a lot of strength to put a stop to something like that.

You should be celebrating!! What you did yesterday could have taken someone else YEARS to do. I'm glad you're not going to allow anyone to walk all over you anymore. Congratulations!! God bless. Hugs, Lee

hannie2223 · Feb 12, 2011, 07:46 PM

It was better today. I found some friends in good moods.

Saying no to her is tough I have to admit. Years ago after my divorce I just buried myself in work and she really took advantage of that. Now that I'm remarried I'd rather spend time with him and not with my job or her. I've slowly been moving the line back further and further. Thanks for the cheering

She still can overwhelm me with her emotions. I just have no control over my emotions. I never know when they will be set off. Could be a sappy commerical on TV or a dead animal on the side of the road or my best friend calling to whine about her day.

Tash35 · Feb 12, 2011, 08:42 PM

I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing to be sensitive...I think you are confusing this term "over emotional" with sensitive. I am sensitive too-I am very empathetic, I feel people's pain very easily and I want to help them. Sometimes, however, my boundaries get lost and I feel depleted because I take on other people's baggage...

Sensitivity and emotionality are good qualities to have during these difficult times-in our modernized world, where sometimes it feels like very little people seem to want to feel anything and quick fixes are abundant to escape our realities.

You make it sound like there is something wrong with you being this way and there isn't. I would love to have a friend like you who would feel sad if I cry. (and hey, I cry at the show BBC's Planet Earth just for the sheer glory of how beautiful and miraculous our world and nature is).

Sounds to me like you are doing a great job at keeping your boundaries with your coworker. Give your sensitivity to people who replenish you and give back. Then you wont feel overwhelmed.

danvb · Feb 12, 2011, 09:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

Just an observation here: your mother telling you what an emotional person you are for your entire life just about guaranteed it would be true.

Uh... Just because your mother told you that you are an emotional person doesn't actually MAKE you one. It just makes you a person that ACTS emotional because you BELIEVE you are an emotional person.
What I mean is, MY mother told me at a very young age that I was a quiet and reserved person. Guess what? Indeed, I grew up acting quiet and reserved because I believed that I was a quiet and reserved person. After all, my mother told me that I was. As a child, my mother was NEVER wrong so what she said must be true! Right?

But is that really me? Am I REALLY a quiet and reserved person?

Heck no.

I just used to believe that I was that way so I acted accordingly...

I dunno. Does that make any sense to anyone here?

Don't tell me if it doesn't.

I like to feel like I'm being helpful here! Ok?

hannie2223 · Feb 14, 2011, 01:32 AM

My mom didn't tell my I was emotional until college and trust me I knew by then. She more just said that I've always been like that. So i wouldn't say that's why it's happened. I do believe that some people are just born super emotional or sensitive. Serious emotions I think make people uncomfortable. I think atleast half of the world doesn't know how to deal with the other half. My sister does not understand my emotions. She just hoped she didn't grow up to be like me. I tease her about not being able to be truly happy.

I have to admit my husband is like this emotional dead spot. He's so peaceful. that seems to be his only emotion. It has it's down sides, but mostly they are worth it...