[LittleForgetMeNot]

My best friend and I had an argument about me being too busy to spend time with him for a few days... then he disappeared and didn't speak to me for about a week and a half. When he came back (for about 5 minutes) he told me that he had signed himself up for a 10 day therapy thing (I suppose it's over night) for him to help cope with him emotions and arguing better and left again.

As soon as he left I started crying. I felt so.. mad. I hated him at that moment and I haven't the faintest idea why. I felt so mad that he didn't tell me anything.. Almost offended by how he had these "little" problems and felt like he had to go to therapy for it when I was in therapy too for things I've been dealing with for years and.. Now when I think back about it I shouldn't have freaked out but for some reason I was so hurt.. I should of been supportive because no problem is insignificant.. but instead I lashed out in anger when he wasn't around to hear me.

I felt like I was being abandoned, betrayed and mocked.. but there was no reason for me to feel this way.. He had problems that he never felt like sharing and went to get help.. So.. What's my deal?

[cutebagaddict08]

It sounds like maybe you are hurt because your friend didn't confide in you and it looks to you that he didn't trust you enough to tell you? Would you feel comfortable talking to your friend about this and if you felt like you needed to apologizing for getting mad at first? Maybe if you explained it, he would understand.

[SoupDragon]

Something I am slowly learning for myself is that our feelings come from insdie us and it is not the situation that dictates our emotional response, but our own values, beliefs, experiences etc...I wonder if your friends behaviour triggered anything that may have happened to you previously - a previous incident where you felt abandoned, betrayed, mocked? Also it sounds like your friend respected you enough to share that he was seeking therapy - maybe he couldn't share other details as it was too hard for him? None of my friends know anything about my stuff.

[LittleForgetMeNot]

I understand that some people don't want to share anything.. And I do believe part of it was that I was hurt by the lack of trust. I mean.. I've told his person everything about myself, every problem I face, I go to him for help. He's barely told me a thing about him.. I've pretty much been betrayed and abandoned and mocked my entire life by just about every one of my previous friends.

Also, he doesn't know I was mad. When we were talking I drew back emotionally and when he left/when I was alone I broke down.