[MyUserName]

Hi,

When i am down in the dumps, which i currently am, i get angry at others so
easy. Im irritable, snappy and a complete nightmare to be around. Its how i
feel at that time and cant control it. Today i have had several blow-ups with
my sis. Now, from my point of view she was in the wrong all of the
time.....but i also am aware my reasoning has been impaired from my
depression. They dont understand not to push me when im like that, but they
shouldnt have to tip-toe around me...

Anyone else experience this?
And how can i get a grip on it? Coz i hurt people in the process...

Thanks for reading

[shezbut]

Well, your experience does occur frequently with depression.

We often become "snippy" and short-tempered with those who play a large part in our lives. They get to see our good and bad sides.

Personally, I can feel a fluttering inside of me when I'm getting edgy. My voice tone becomes short and hard. And those are times when I just need some time alone ~ to work things out.

I am a big believer in exercise helping me work through my emotions ~ going for long, fast walks in nature brings me a better sense of peacefulness. Lifting weights, pilates or aerobics can also help me get my mind off things. Nature brings me an extra something though...a feeling of resiliency and hope. Those feelings are a BIG help in getting through snippy times. Listening to music in your room, coloring, word-search, crafts. All ideas to help you relieve stress in a healthy way (meaning: not by hurting yourself or others).

Gentle hugs to you!

[Gus1234U]

i'm tired of people acting like i can choose not to be irratable, esp. when they are being insensitive too.... and i'm really tired of being abandoned or excluded because of my tone of voice,, my need for non-stimulation, etc. if they are so healthy, why can't they change their own responses to me??
bleh,,, Gus

[Open Eyes]

(((((Gus)))))),
It is very hard to express to others what depression, anxiety issues, and as with me PTSD, along with all the issues that plague each of us.

I know that within myself I struggle everyday trying to understand how to overcome, heal, live with, understand, and so on, with my personal issues. And I repeatedly say that I truely wish that if only others could experience my personal struggle they would support me and not push me or trigger me the way they do. And my anger comes out simply because I am frustrated with myself. And any input that lends to me choosing my condition sets me off.

It is definitely a challenge when we are struggling to find ways to heal and overcome something that we are truely trying to define an understand ourselves.

One of the things I have done because the one person that is around me the most is my husband, is have my therapist explain my condition to him. And it may take a few sessions for my therapist to help him realize what I have and how to support me. My husband is a fixer and a lets get it done quickly kind of guy so he can really trigger me. He doesn't have to even say anything, his body language speaks volumes and he has loud body language. All I can say is "Thank god he works two jobs and isnt constantly around me".

And yes, if we suffer from depression or anxiety issues and others are popping around us we can get overstimulated and burst and in doing so hurt others unintentionally.
It is very important to communicate that we have to have our quiet space in many ways. That is often very difficult for other people to comprehend.

If there is any way that you can have those around you meet with your therapist I strongly recommend it. People who struggle with disorders not only need support but space and time to figure out how to heal.

It is a challenge and we, ourselves, have to recognize what triggers us and make attempts to find ways to overcome these triggers and consciously work at making efforts to learn how to control our reactions. It is a lot of work and we do have to be patient and have support.

Open Eyes

[cin1]

i can snap at a moment. going along ok until something like a smell or something is said that i take wrong.. then i am angry for a while later, husband does not want to be around me, but that goes for when i am ok too. yorkie is scared when i am angry but the rest of the time she stands right with me. cin1

[cin1]

Originally Posted by Gus1234U

i'm tired of people acting like i can choose not to be irratable, esp. when they are being insensitive too.... and i'm really tired of being abandoned or excluded because of my tone of voice,, my need for non-stimulation, etc. if they are so healthy, why can't they change their own responses to me??
bleh,,, Gus

it seems to always be ME who takes things wrong... finally i began to wonder about that. people i do not know look at me wrong but then i decided it doesn't matter, they don't matter. i am not nor will be the sales person's best friend. i have to balance being alone and being with others. i don't care about responses any more. cin1

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

And yes, if we suffer from depression or anxiety issues and others are popping around us we can get overstimulated and burst and in doing so hurt others unintentionally.
It is very important to communicate that we have to have our quiet space in many ways. That is often very difficult for other people to comprehend.

This is my issue, big time. Ya don't even have to blow up very often and you get branded cr@zy b!tch.

But I like the way you tell this part of the story. It makes me feel hopeful, to have a better (any, really!) explanation of what is going on and how or why this happens. Thanks, OpenEyes, this is not the first time you have enlightened me.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I really really identify with having to deal with people who think that we choose to be irritable or angry.

And I agree that I don't have to be everyone's best friend!

thanks so much for this thread.

Billi