[taytaybatt]

I've gotten less and less luck when it comes to the new years over the past couple of years. (including various injuries and just overall bad luck)

this year has become even worse because one of my good friends got hit by a car while walking back to her own and is in the ICU at the moment. She was so excited because just hours before she had finally gotten her drivers license. She was out running to get the calculator I let her borrow and kept asking her to get it for me when she got hit, so I can't help but feel responsible, and its beyond rare that I feel guilty about something, for her accident because she was doing what I had asked her to do for a while.

I know that it's not my fault and it's the drivers fault, but I still can't get rid of the idea that I was the cause of it. Is there any good way to help lessen that feeling?

[mazing]

I am sorry to hear about your friend. I hope she is ok!

I think all you can do is give it time - it isn't your fault. You could not have predicted something like that. Is there someone you can talk to about how you are feeling? A therapist, parent, teacher/lecturer? Sometimes getting it out can help.

Sending 's (if ok) for you and your friend.

[Dapsych]

I hope she gets better soon, for now you must make sure her family is okay and to visit her when your allowed, this was unpredictable. See it as an innocent provoke.

[Perna]

Your friend was not paying sufficient attention to traffic while walking on the street and got hit. Because of that, now her friends and family are worried about her. If she had returned the calculator to you one of the previous many times you asked, this would not have happened.

Ultimately, we are responsible for ourselves. We have to stay in the minute, pay attention to our surroundings and think about our actions. If we are thinking about something else we are not paying attention in the moment. If we are going to daydream, we need to make sure our surroundings are safe. She was probably thinking of all the places she could drive now that she has a license, was probably not thinking of you and the calculator at all (getting a calculator is kind of boring, I'd say; at least would be to you and me who have had driver's licenses for a longer time :-) and was not thinking about the traffic on the road, either. It is in no way your fault, you were not there; she and the driver of the car are responsible for not paying attention to one another and what actions they were performing.

[needfixing]

your right when you said it isn't your fault. just keep telling yourself that over and over again.
have you visited her yet? maybe that will help you too.

[Brokenwings73]

First of all you don't ask to get hitter by a car! She could have been paying very good attention and who cares if it wasn't returned the first time u asked! I was crossing the street in may, looked both ways got half way across and checked again and sill got clobbered at 45 mph by a girl who had sun glare in her eyes. I died on the scene and was brought back by a good samaratin . I had a lengthy Hosp stay and numerous emergency surgeruies a brain hemmoraghe and was un a coma.
It us nit your fault. Things happen unfortunately that are out if our control and our power! We can't question a higher powers plans for us. My father always used to say to me when I was coming back from one of my situations, "Today is the first day of the rest of your life." we get do overs as a matter of speaking. I wish blessings to you and your friend.

[LeCigareVolant]

Imagine the driver of the car that hit her, in court, saying "no it's not my fault, it's her friend's fault who kept asking her to go get the calculator". No you weren't the cause of this, he was, or maybe as they say "accidents will happen". I hope your friend is seeing some progress in her recovery.