[jaxter23]

So I have this friend (neighbor) who is two years older than me that just moved about 45 minutes away and she comes home on random weekends. She texted me today to see if I was around this weekend and I told her not really cuz I have a lot going on. I told her I already had plans tonight cuz some people were dragging me out as long as I got enough studying done today. Then tomorrow I am volunteering because there is a new training I have to go to until 4 and then when I get back I have to study and prep for my interviews this week. I have a huge job interview on Monday (I say huge because I really want the job) and another interview Tuesday. I just found out about both interviews at like 5 last night so pretty short notice. I also take my first part of the CPA exam (which is really hard if you don't know much about it) on Wednesday and I'm starting to freak out over everything in the next four days. All she said back to me was "ok...i'll just stop asking u to do stuff cuz its obvi a waste of time." How is that going to help anything??? I feel so guilty right now, but she never gives me a heads up and expects me to drop everything whenever she comes home! Does it make me a bad person or selfish to try and focus on everything I have going on this week instead of spending time with her??? I just feel like a horrible person now

This friend of yours is clearly being self-centered - she is not being considerate of all the things you have going on with your life. I would encourage you not to feel guilty - you have done nothing wrong.

[Callmebj]

You get a resounding "NO" on your question. She's not seeing your busy pace, and if she is; is inconsiderate of it. Heavens; that's a lot you got going on.
Hugs, bj

[Perna]

Agree with what she says; it obviously IS a "waste of time" planning to do something with you this weekend. But that is not a bad thing, it just "is"! You have your life and are living it the way you need/want to and that is all you can do. You are not here to entertain her when she comes around. Do not feel you have to fit her into your schedule instead of her fitting you into hers! You are just as important to any friendship as she is and, in your own life, should be more important.

[unaluna]

Maybe something bad happened so she did end up coming home on short notice, and instead of getting ANY sympathy, she got what sounded like this, I'm too busy for you, so she lashed out? So there could be a little misunderstanding. Maybe if you could give her a call and find out if anything like that is going on? idk.

[manda15]

Originally Posted by jaxter23

So I have this friend (neighbor) who is two years older than me that just moved about 45 minutes away and she comes home on random weekends. She texted me today to see if I was around this weekend and I told her not really cuz I have a lot going on. I told her I already had plans tonight cuz some people were dragging me out as long as I got enough studying done today. Then tomorrow I am volunteering because there is a new training I have to go to until 4 and then when I get back I have to study and prep for my interviews this week. I have a huge job interview on Monday (I say huge because I really want the job) and another interview Tuesday. I just found out about both interviews at like 5 last night so pretty short notice. I also take my first part of the CPA exam (which is really hard if you don't know much about it) on Wednesday and I'm starting to freak out over everything in the next four days. All she said back to me was "ok...i'll just stop asking u to do stuff cuz its obvi a waste of time." How is that going to help anything??? I feel so guilty right now, but she never gives me a heads up and expects me to drop everything whenever she comes home! Does it make me a bad person or selfish to try and focus on everything I have going on this week instead of spending time with her??? I just feel like a horrible person now

You have a lot on your plate. You have a lot to worry about and in my opinion, your neighbor should support you, help you prepare for your exams,or atleast give you alone time in order to let you study. If she were a real friend, she'd understand that you're stressed out. You can't deal with exams, interviews, volunteer work, and her all at the same time. It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure and she should realize that it's not your fault you can't hangout with her. If she wants to see you, she has to wait. You can't cancel on your former plans. Friends are important, but right now, it doesn't sound like you have the time to socialize much. Don't worry. It'll get better soon I hope/ My best friend has recently put me down too. I feel like she doesn't support me in anything anymore..She doesn't even consider me her friend anymore. I am dead to her..she hates me, I'm sure of it.