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Mar 10, 2012, 02:41 AM
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I can't even do simple things that I enjoy because I am shamed, even though there is NOTHING shameful about these things at all. They are just simple everyday things!
I am not sure what to do to change this. These things make no sense to me. It's destroying my life. I am paralyzed by fear and guilt which I do not understand at all. I know this is leftover from delusions I had, I just wish I knew how to change my mind about these things. 
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Mar 10, 2012, 10:41 AM
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I would treat the feelings you know to be false kind of like anxiety and just do what you would like anyway. Over time the doing should ease the feelings of shame as nothing "bad" happens, no one jumps up and yells at you for doing them, etc. Talk back to the shame; it's vague and you are much "smarter" than it is and can articulate and argue with it whereas it cannot logically argue back. Make fun of it.
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Mar 10, 2012, 11:17 AM
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 Fight the fear/ shame and continue with life. When your fear gets intense, tell yourself to "Stop it!". Shake your head and re-gain focus. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Things will get better as time goes on.
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Mar 10, 2012, 02:59 PM
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I have the same sort of thing. I know how distressing it can be. I just tell myself it will blow over eventually. Good luck.
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Mar 10, 2012, 05:43 PM
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I can sort of relate, it sounds like you may be subconsciously holding a certain situation or event that has happened to you or someone in your life as a way of evaluating your life and situations in your life. You are probably unaware you are doing this and that something maybe someone said or something has happened is affecting how you feel for a reason. However once you figure out what's behind your sense of shame or guilt you can start to work on moving past it or changing the level in which it affects you. You say this is left over from delusions well maybe getting some more help with a T to look into these delusions and understanding your concepts of everyday life things may help you to regain a sense of capability and acceptance of yourself. Sorry if this was not helpful. Wish you all the best
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Mar 10, 2012, 10:14 PM
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If you were taught that there was something 'wrong' with what you wanted, that what you wanted was about who you are, then there could be that going on inside, in a way that isn't known to you except in the shame/guilt that you feel about just being you.
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Mar 14, 2012, 03:05 PM
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Brene Brown's TED talk may help explains some things.
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown...erability.html |
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Mar 15, 2012, 06:04 PM
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