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Old Aug 26, 2012, 12:22 PM
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I know the feeling. I learned from my family not to trust. This did not help me because when I did trust I always trusted the wrong people. I ended up with the idea that I could not trust anyone completely and the only dysfunctional relationships result. I trust a higher power(I use this term because it seems to be more inclusive of everyone) and the strong bonds I have had with pets. I trust people to a limited extent. I am a loner because of it.
I am the same way. With the lone exception of my husband. I can't trust people. When I do. I am always betrayed. I love and trust my husband, but I find it very difficult to talk to him because he doesn't "get it". It's hard to talk to the wind....

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Old Aug 26, 2012, 12:25 PM
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At first I thought this is a trust issue, because you said it is a trust issue. I was planning to tell you that you can trust people to be themselves. Your expectation of betrayal can actually make it more likely to happen, because it drives off people who are mostly honest. It is just the same way with people who are angry all the time in that they are very good at finding reasons to feel angry. Things just seem to happen that way. Your expectations act like a filter on your experiences, and from what it sounds like, you are filtering for betrayal.

Except now I'm wondering ... is it possible that you are actually asking about abandonment?
Abandonment is part of it for me. I trusted someone who said he wouldn't abandon me, and now I'm alone...
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