[LostMom3]

I will start the day off in a fairly decent mood. But there is always something that goes wrong when waking the 4 teenage boys that set me into an agitated mood. Sometimes when they leave for school it will go back to decent. On occasion though, it has become rather aggressive. I will be grumpy and make smart remarks to my boyfriend for no reason. I am also experiencing jealous for the first time since I was 17 years old. That could be because I am 20 pounds overweight and my boyfriend tends to make remarks about the cute little petite woman we see in public. How can I control my moods better? I don't want to snap and hit someone, and I feel like that is what is going to happen.

[Leed]

Well, for one thing I can completely understand getting into a snit when trying to wake up 4 teenage boys for school. I only have ONE teenage girl to get up for school, and she can drive me NUTS at times. But 4 boys would be enough to make ANYONE ticked off !!! So you have plenty of excuse for being short-tempered in the morning. These kids are just so irresponsible about getting up themselves -- if you let them rely on themselves, they'd be late everyday!

Your boyfriend is being an absolute JERK about making remarks about cute little petite women. What an idiot. We're not ALL made like that and who would WANT to be??? REAL women have CURVES. And most men won't want little "skinny minnies." They want women with some meat on them, and some curves!! And Another thing -- I'm SURE you could say something about HIS body -- and why dont' you start lookiing at some HUNKY GUYS??? Make it known that there are some gorgeous men out there too! See how HE likes it. Sheeesh. Two can play at that game.

How can he be so insensitive? My late husband never did any of that, thank God. He loved me enough that he didn't do that kind of thing. And if he did, he made sure I didn't see it. I'm grateful to him for that. I sure don't have the perfect figure, so he sure could have looked!

Have you TOLD your boyfriend how it makes you feel? He's not a mind reader, so you need to tell him. Make sure you do.

Take care and God bless. Big hugs, Lee

[LostMom3]

I have talked to my boyfriend, tearfully. He has slacked off a lot. It bothers me so much because I used to be on of those tiny petite women that barely weighed a hundred pounds. Meds tend to pack on the pounds, unfortunatly. I am on a diet now and have lost 10 pounds the past month.

Trust me I see the hunky guys out there. Make sure he knows I see. I also get honked at by truck drivers in truck stops when we stop for fuel, so I know others find me attractive.

Thank you, you made me smile tonight.

[Leed]

Ya know something -- you need to learn to love yourself just the way you are. If you were only about 20lbs overweight and you've already lost 10lbs. then good grief, woman -- you were probably at your IDEAL weight in the first place! I have a feeling you will be a little too "skinny" when you get down to where you are aiming for!

Don't let him dictate how you should look. If you FEEL better with a little more weight, then phooey on him. Your health is more important that what HE thinks. Men are always going to look -- it's the NO TOUCH that means the most!!

Learn to love yourself the way you are. You're perfect regardless of what you weigh. We're loved by God regardless and that's who we have to worry about. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee