[MyExsWifeIsUgIy]

I feel like I hate my ex-fiance and his new wife so much I want to make them humiliated like he had made me. We broke up a year ago and they've been married since 12/22/11, so I don't know WHY this is still a feeling I have. How can I get rid of these feelings? I am engaged myself to a new guy (been engaged since October) and I shouldn't be FEELING this angry at my ex and his wife. I literally watch their facebook and report violations on Facebook for their pictures they post. They're constantly writing, "I love you sooooo much" to each other all over facebook. As soon as he broke up with me he PUT pictures of HER AND HIM kissing on Facebook even though at the time we mutually had friends, and now we have no mutual friends because he refuses to talk to any of our old friends, only 2 of his loser friends that do pot all the time.

I'M SO ANGRY.

((((My))) I am sorry you are hurting so much. It must be very painful. I realize the obvious would be to delete or deactivate your FB account but I know that isn't going to happen

Have you spoken with your T about this?

It is so important to get these feelings out: All of your feelings. I know it may hurt a lot to talk about it, but I truly believe you will not be able to move forward until you get it all out and find a peaceful resolution. You deserve that for yourself.

Also, it truly is NOT fair to your fiance. You cannot start a new life with someone while you have unresolved feelings for someone from your past.

(I have been through a lot relationship-wise, too, and the only way I have been able to move forward is by speaking with a T. Feelings are tricky. Sometimes they don't make sense, so we get stuck).

Please continue posting and let us know how you are doing
Rose

[Suki22]

okay, he's so not worth the obsessing! you need to move on FULLY. block them from FB. obviously reading his and/or her page is upsetting you. you need to protect YOU. as much as curiousity is wanting you to look, you need to keep your FB account but BLOCK THEM. I can't imagine you're fully into the new guy if you're still stuck on the old guy. doesn't your new guy deserve all of your attention? heck, you deserve more attention than you are giving this loser.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way but you can change it! I used to be obsessive about exes when I was younger. I'm older and wiser now and just chalk it up to "you're not that into me? okay. BYE!" it's very empowering. take care and fight the good fight!

[Odee]

I second what Suki said!

I can't blame you for feeling so enraged. You KNOW that he dumped you for another girl and that's just heartbreaking. Don't let what he did to you make you feel any less than any other woman.