[Pritish]

hey ive been depressed for a long time...i tried every thing ... i mean a ot of things.. and now nothing has worked..... my friends even my mother adviced me to get into a relationship... may be that might hlp...... dunno but i also somewhat need someone.... please give advice

[Miswimmy1]

im not sure that beginning a relationship is the best idea, if you are depressed. i would suggest getting out, a little bit at a time. start with seeing some friends, go to a movie, grab a bite to eat. then as you become more social, you can work your way into a relationship. i think aiming for a relationship from the get go, just because someone told you to, isn't the best thing to do. you cant force a relationship, and it is set up for disapointment.

[Leed]

A relationship would be the worst thing to do. Have you been in therapy? And stayed in it for a good while? You can't just go to a couple of sessions and expect the doctor to cure you. You have to keep going until the issues have been taken care of. That could take a good long tiime.

If you can afford therapy, have your doctor put you on an antidepressant. Just because one doesn't work, there are PLENTY of others that can be tried. And you have to remember that it takes 6 weekd before they even BEGIN to work after you've started them. So that takes a long time too. And you can't abruptly stop takiing an antidepressant either or you could have some DANGEROUS side effects.

So make sure you've tried these things. But please don't enter into a relationship as that would be disastrous. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[jelly-bean]

I don't think that a relationship is a good idea at this point. You are already depressed and if the relationship doesn't work out then you will be worse off than you were before. Are you in therapy or taking any meds? If not then the first thing would be to go to see a doctor and get the right meds to help. He/she can also refer you to some sort of therapy. You do need to try to get out a little bit at a time to a movie or something. Socializing is good for depression. Good Luck and let us know how it is going.

[valyn9]

I would have said what they said, but since they pretty much have that nailed, I'll say that I suppose it really just depends on your expectations. If you can see yourself getting along well with someone and then turning clingy or desperate for fear of going back to the awful place to came from, then that's kind of what these gaiz are saying about things ending disastrously. If you aren't afraid, honestly there's something that can help take you out of depression just in saying you're fine enough to get into a healthy relationship. That can be kind of life-affirming and a positive step. ... But you are making a statement of your health--and really I'd actually encourage you to make it--but you're not using a relationship to shield you from your own issues. It's all about your thought process. Go in thinking a relationship will in any way save you and ... just don't put yourself through that. On the other hand, it can make things a little easier too if you're feeling opportunistic, self-responsible, and ok if it doesn't work out that it was worthwhile anyway. You be the judge.

[Davisb]

When under depression, not sure that that getting involved with another person is good idea. See if the Doc chimes in.

[Thunder Bow]

Don't force yourself into a relationship, but be open to one if it feels OK to do so.

i've noticed you've not posted since your original message.. are you okay?