[kala83]

I have noticed that for me...i am very emotionally charged and a lot more sensitive to this side of me then other people are.

my mother actually noticed this in me before i did and bought me a book entitled "the highly sensative person how to thrive when the world overwhelms you" by Elaine N. Aron.

I have not gotten that far into it but it does seems to really help for me, does anyone else feel as though they struggle with things like this also?

[Miswimmy1]

yeah, i have really strong emotions... I feel like I feel things more strongly than other ppl, as well as being more attuned to other ppl's emotions as well. I pick up on the air around me, and my emotions run away with me.

[tigerlily84]

I think it's fantastic that your mom is being so supportive and bought that book for you to read. I am also sensitive, and most people think the opposite of me. I might want to check out that book too, sounds like a good read!

[horsecab]

Yes, I am extremely sensitive and have been all my life. I remember my mom telling me that I looked like I would burst into tears at the slightest criticism. Thanks for mentioning that book, I will definitely look into it more.

[littlemssunshine]

That book sounds great! I am definitely emotionally sensitive, always have been and probably always will be haha. My therapist suggested I used the mantra "I am a sensitive person who sees the world differently." It actually helps me through a lot, and may be useful to use for you to remind yourself and help you get through tough situations. It usually calms me down and may help you too.

[layla11]

Hi, and yes Im like that also. I have a hard time settling down and going to sleep at night because of it.

[jelly-bean]

I think that there are probably a lot of people like that here. Thanks for mentioning the book. Looks like the bookstore is going to get a run on that one.

Hi kala83 - its good to know your mum is being so supportive, it sounds like she takes a real interest in your wellbeing and rightly so As for being emotionally sensitive i suffer from BPD so my emotions are strongly felt and swing very rapidly from kind to another. I think in some respects greater sensitivity is no bad thing - after all it means we're likely to have more empathy for others, we also tend to pick up on how others feel - i think this sense of perception is invaluable. I hope you enjoy the book and take from it as much as possible. All the best.

[onlytime]

I'm also emotionally sensitive, and I agree with the others who said it's not necessary a bad thing! A lot of people tell me I'm "too sensitive" in a criticizing way, but my therapist is helping me see my sensitivity as a gift. I am able to pick up on emotions and vibes from others and I can also feel deeply - that makes me (and you!) special!

Let us know if the book your mom suggested is helpful!

[Thankful]

I think I might be the first male here to admit I am emotionally sensitive also on here. But in the last week caught my spouse seeing another and it has hit me pretty hard. Has had me in tears and then I have even gotten to the point while lying in bed and thinking of all the things around me. It gets me so worked up I actually get chills like as if I'm breaking a fever and it is killing me. I have never had to deal with any pain like this in my life before and in my eyes it seems worse than anyone I have ever lost before. Even when loved ones have past I did not get this emotional. I can only figure it is because they aren't not still able to see me or me see them. But with my soon to be ex-wife I will still have to see her and even when I think about her it brings me to tears I know the pains will fade in time but it literally took me over two years to get over the last one and I don't want to deal with this kind of pain that long again. If anyone have any helping words or books or suggestions I'm very open to them.

Thankful

[80vette]

Im there with ya brother! My wife did the same thing a few years ago and unfortunately I retaliated. Tried to work through it and we just didn't make it. She moved out about two months age and my divorce was final last Tuesday. 9-11. Lol. It was the very tough thing to go through!! Now that it's over things are leveling out and I see lit at the end of the tunnel. I realize that my life and my future is my own now and it's up to me where it goes. You also will have the opportunity to make a positive turn and I'm sure there will be someone out there that will be just right for you! You just have to be strong and believe in yourself!!

[AngelWolf3]

thank you for the suggestion on the book. I am also sensitive. In fact, I probably would've been upset/offended that she got the book for me because I would be sensitive to her thinking that I am sensitive! (I realize how messed up that sounds).
I am glad you were positive about it, and I think I need to find that book too.

Thank you.

[zoe91308]

I am the same way...I always feel like I'm over-reacting over every small thing and can cry at the drop of a hat. Unfortunately, I am unable to control my emotional reactions. I am also able to pick up on the slightest hint of emotion from other people. I'm more empathetic than anyone else in my close circle of family & friends. Whether this part is a bad thing, I haven't figured out yet. So far it's helped. But my over-sensitivity has made me look, in my perspective, a big cry-baby and a little crazy. It's even caused quite a few anxiety attacks as well. It's very difficult to deal with, especially at work when this is a huge issue.

Thank you so much for mentioning the title of the book your mother gave you. I will most definitely be checking that out!

If you ever need to talk, my ears are open!

[Hellion]

I'd say I am pretty sensitive....and I can pick up on others moods, but of course I have learned I am not always accurate its hard to tell when its for real and when I just think I am picking up on a certain mood.

[susan900]

Originally Posted by onlytime

I'm also emotionally sensitive, and I agree with the others who said it's not necessary a bad thing! A lot of people tell me I'm "too sensitive" in a criticizing way, but my therapist is helping me see my sensitivity as a gift. I am able to pick up on emotions and vibes from others and I can also feel deeply - that makes me (and you!) special!

Let us know if the book your mom suggested is helpful!

Hi all,

I am very sensitive, though yes I do think it helps you to care and understand others better. But I get told too, im "too sensitive" . Maybe cos I have had alot of criticisim in my family life. And may be thats why we are like that. But I don't know If I dare tell my therapist that when I see him soon.

[JelcenT]

I'm also super sensitive. I am cus I care too much what others think

But important thing is u gotta live for urself and love yourself and be happy.

[gma45]

I am pretty sensitive myself although I feel like I have had to put up this tough exterior shell most of my life, but when I am alone I get real sad. Guess that comes from being hurt so many times. I will tell ya though I am tired of being sad and sensitive, seems like it is just the way it is most of the time now. I wish things would change.

[sorter]

I use to be "sensitive" until a mentor gave me this view.

I had the words reversed. I was being insensitive to my emotions.
That is, I didn't like many of my emotions and I didn't want to SENSE them.
I wished I didn't have them. I repressed them.

I'm not particularly religious but this line spoke to me:
"God gave you your emotions, who are you to judge them?"

So I realized the trick it to fully accept all of my emotions, feelings, and bodily sensations.
To look for how they are meant to help me. Easier said then done but I find the effort very worthwhile.
I'm no longer sensitive, or insensitive to my emotions.