[tomboy2011]

ok well i like dark makeup and perising and tattoos my dad hates all of thos things and thinks there for attenchen i went down stairs with dark makeup on and it is halloween so i didnt think he would mind and he said he would being me to get something to eat and he said i needed to take the makeup off or i cant go and i said i wont go becouse i was crying by then he is always on me about what i wear i feel like this is my falit idk what to do i just want to crawl up in a ball somewhere and disaper he dont know about my SI eather ad he wonders why i never come down stairs i hate life :'(

[sesame]

I think it's hard for parents to relate to that sometimes, because they grew up differently. Once upon a time, I dyed my hair a few crazy colors, like pink, blue, purple, etc. My parents wanted to kick me out of the house, and it took a while until they were willing to go out in public with me. I found it devastating and was offended that they found it embarassing to be seen with me (their words). There were a few times when they said I couldn't leave the house until I changed clothes, too. Strangely enough, now that it's normal, they said that they miss it sometimes.

To them, they might see it as weird. What they don't understand is likely your teenage desire for self-expression, which is very, very normal! It's possible that they don't understand because you don't give them a chance to understand. As you've implied, you spend a lot of time on your own at home, yes? How can they understand you better if you don't communicate with them?

My advice is that, next time this comes up, ask them what kinds of things they did/wore/etc that their parents didn't approve of. I'm sure they'll have a few stories for you, and it might bring them to a point of being more able to understand you and where you are in life right now.

[tomboy2011]

my dad had to work at a young age so he dont understand being a teenager and stuff i have tryed communicating with them and they just dont understand

[gma45]

Dads will be Dads! I am sure he is having a hard time with you wanting to grow up and be your own person, dads are like that! You have to look at his side of it....he still sees you as his little girl and he wants to protect you and keep you safe. You and I know that it will not work, but he is doing the best he can the only way he knows how. I used to have to sneak my jeans out of the house because in my day girls were supposed to wear dresses only! Your feeling are valid and it is ok to be upset but remember this to shall pass. At least he was willing to take you to get something to eat and that is a good thing! Try not to let it get you down for to long, let him know it was just for Halloween! Try to have a good one!

[tomboy2011]

its more of the having to look PERFECT and im not and i feel like im letting him down

[Leed]

Honey, nobody is perfect and your DAD wasn't perfect either and he STILL isn't perfect. You aren't letting him down. Just don't let yourself down, ok?