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Hi , i'm back.....n with a new problem......i just need to sort my feelings here....i found a good friend in a man abt a decade younger than me....now thts an ok thing i know in western societies but not in my country...its almost taboo....
well, the problem is tht , i started this friendhsip by sharing some of my story...infact even today we met up n i shared a a vulnerable secret of mine...he shared some of his own hardships n talk n chats later....we're sort of inseperable.......h is i must say quite mature for his age n i thoroughly njoy his company as much as he says he does.....he calls me often to meet up n talk abt stuff....we message each other good nite....but we're comfy right now. both of us agree on being just friends but..i must confide...i do feel attracted ...tho i know i cant go on tht street ever....he too says tht he respects me n would nver think of me in a wrong way. i'm happy for him if he thinks that way..but sometimes the passion he shows when we have to part make me fall back into a sense of depression n frustration....of not knowing wht he is having in his mind....shud i pull out now n save both of us the heart ache.....i dont want this to be any rebound....i need to get over him too....help me pls....it hurts not being able to be share it wit anyone.....Thanks in adv....N love to my frnds....always on my mind....:-) |
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What would happen if people knew you were friends? Would your parents react negatively? Would it ruin your chances of ever having a lasting relationship with another man? Is he the time to take advantage of you and then drop you? Are you willing to withstand the repercussions? I think the answers to these questions will tell you what you should do.
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Well I guess there's nothing wrong if you say or confess what you really feel for him but you must consider the consequence first before you do an action.
Let say he likes you too, now that will be the best thing to hear from him. BUT what if he don't see you as a girl to be with, you know the "bf-gf thing" ? Would you risk your friendship just to clench your mind about what he really feel for you? It's a hard decision to make because your putting the risk of the good relationship between the two of you right now.
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