[Rainthatfalls]

Me and my sister were talking, and she mentioned that she felt "totally awkward" when she danced in front of a girl that used to be on the school's Show Choir team, but got kicked off even though she was good. She said that the girl was okay about it before, but when she was dancing, my sister had to force a smile while the girl looked like she was about to burst into tears.

I just don't get it. Wouldn't it be sad to see something like that? It would be as if you saw a little puppy wandering the streets and it got soaked to the bone when a car drove by through a muddy puddle. Bad analogy, I know, but you get my point. If something was bad and got worse, and other people noticed, why would they feel awkward about it? Isn't awkward when you don't know what the other person is thinking/feeling, and neither do they, so you both don't know how to proceed?

I know that when people look like they're about to cry around me, I feel apprehensive and scared for a couple different reasons. Why are they crying? Should I be worried about it? Do they expect me to comfort them? What am I supposed to say? Should I leave them alone? Do they want privacy? If I leave, how far should I go? Should I be right around the corner, or just turn so my back is to them? Do they want me to talk to them? Do they want me to get someone?

Why are people so confusing?

[Jan1212]

I think you answered your own question right? You don't know what to do, so you feel unsure and awkward. That happens a lot. I don't know why people are so confusing, everyone has different ways to cope and act maybe

[Rainthatfalls]

Originally Posted by Jan1212

I think you answered your own question right? You don't know what to do, so you feel unsure and awkward. That happens a lot. I don't know why people are so confusing, everyone has different ways to cope and act maybe

It just seems strange the way she worded it. I though that she would've said a different word like 'sad' or 'anxious' instead. Hmm.

Thanks for responding, though. I appreciate it.

[Stranger516]

Why are people so confusing.....

Some things are just not able to be explained. I know when I see someone crying it crushes me. Especially if I see a man crying. I feel hopeless. I need to try and make them feel better. I can't stand to see people in pain. I think it is a natural instinct (especially in women) who may have a more nurturing side and will be more willing to comfort someone who is upset. I come on this website not only to ask questions but to answer other peoples in hope that I try and get them to understand things better.

Like this one girl on here was upset because she was black. I wanted to reach through the computer screen and start shaking her saying "THERE IS NO REASON TO BE UPSET BECAUSE YOU ARE OF A SPECIFIC RACE." It angers me when people are upset for no reason, suffering like that is just completely unnecessary.