[just4fam]

Lately with in the last year or so, my daughter when she feels like someone is saying something negative to her or about her family or someone says something she doesn't like or agree with, she gets furious. I mean to the point of screaming, shaking, red in the face, hyperventilating and then says things that are not true, unrealistic or inappropriate. She is 31 years old and a mother of 2...a 1 year old and an almost 3 year old. Her husband had been deployed most of their 5 year marriage. They are now living together. He has been and seen a lot and is kind of unemotional towards her. She has always been needy as far and getting comfort and reassurance from her family memebers. I know she has a problem with shopping. She is buying stuff online/stores all the time. It used to be for herself, now she buys for the kids constantly! I don't know what to do to help her. She doesn't know why she gets so angry. It is causing a lot of extended family/family issues. Please anyone, do you know what is wrong with her? Desparate mother

[~Christina]

Of course no one here is a doctor and cant diagnose.. that said ...First and foremost make sure she has had a recent physical with her GP.. If that comes back fine. The next step would be her seeing a therapist and/or Pdoc. I would imagine having her husband deployed for most the marriage would certainly stressful. There is hope.

Good Luck

[jadzea]

Where does your daughter live? If it is not too far for her to drive I strongly encourage her and her husband to go to the closest VA hospital. They have numerous programs for veterans as well as their families to help with adjusting to returning home from the Gulf and being families again. They should have an
OEF/OIF program that can help. They do good work. If it is too far to go, at least give them a call. They may have a community based clinic nearby.

[Miswimmy1]

Having her husband deployed is probably not helping anything. does she hav help with the kids? a nanny? a babysitter? She is probably stressed to the max.

impulsive buying could be part of many different disorders. Does she want help? I would suggest that go to her local doc and get a refferal to a psychologist or psychiatrist, as that is the fastest way to get diagnosed. It may just be stress. Or it may be something more. Only a professional can decide.