My feelings have been hurt and I am sad. But I am also anxious and angry. Part of me wants to breakdown and cry hoping to make the bad feelings go away. The other part of me wants to rage and break sh it and throw things until I'm completely drained. I usually bury feelings and I know that is no good. So I am trying to sit with them and wait out the storm, but I am losing at this game. I need a release to get all these "bad" feelings out of me. I can feel myself being dragged down by them. My natural instinct is to go to the anger but I realize that does me no good either. How does one work through the sadness instead of skipping it and going straight to anger?

[Thunder Bow]

Go with the anger, but avoid the "add on". Keep the anger to the point and don't add on any thing else such as self hate.

Maybe you should try something constructive while waiting out the storm. Writing helps. Even if it doesn't make sense, just let the stream of consciousness flow.

[hester91]

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

My feelings have been hurt and I am sad. But I am also anxious and angry. Part of me wants to breakdown and cry hoping to make the bad feelings go away. The other part of me wants to rage and break sh it and throw things until I'm completely drained. I usually bury feelings and I know that is no good. So I am trying to sit with them and wait out the storm, but I am losing at this game. I need a release to get all these "bad" feelings out of me. I can feel myself being dragged down by them. My natural instinct is to go to the anger but I realize that does me no good either. How does one work through the sadness instead of skipping it and going straight to anger?

There are times when Im too far gone to constructively work through it or skip it and Im way past keeping my anger in check. The best things that ive found that work for me are to get into the shower until the hot water runs out. Thats usually enough time to slow down my run away emotions. Or, I go online shopping, fill up my cart with all the things I like but know I cant afford, I put my credit card away of course. Its distracting and I can go back later and try to work through the sadness and anger without hurting anyone.
Feel better.

[sorter]

As long as you want your feelings to "go away", you'll have internal conflict.
That can be more painful then the emotions themselves.
If you stubbed your toe, would you want your foot to go away?

Realize your emotions will be with you for the rest of your life.
Find how they are trying to help you. Find how they can feel comfortable.