should i let go?

do you find it hard to let go something you believed in for years?
when i was younger i made a lot of promises that i find it hard to keep in the present. i feel confused because i know what i felt back then was true.

I'm not sure what you're talking about specifically so it's hard to know what to say. I have some things that used to be important to me at one time and I don't understand the apathy I feel now. Some things I have to give up on as a practical matter, because I don't financially have the recources to cover pledges I made in a different time. Is it even feasible to meet your obligations?

your truth changes watevs. that's normal

any examples?

tell us more...?

not sure i understand either

i'll give you an example, when you promise somebody that you'll be friends for ever then you find it hard to keep that promise just because you no longer see in him the person you wanted to be friends with. it is just an example, it didn't happen to me, it is just to explain. but for me i wanted to prove some people wrong,some who questioned my beliefs. then it started to be a burden. i find it hard to let go.

Well people change. i often times hear with "young married couples" this occurs for example. They are in their late teens and are in love, they get married- and by their thirties they have both grown to be different people.
Is it wrong for either one of them to be different and have grown as they have? Who is to say. I don't think so in my opinion.

*Edit is here* I do need to add something though- I don't think it is wrong for people to grow, but I think it really matters on HOW people go about with the departure and how things are handled. I just was thinking of a couple that I know personally that went through the whole "young love and broke up at thirty"; both of them did not handle it well, and one worse that the other. And the way that she is "coping" with it all, i don't think is very healthy for her and she claims to be miserable as well.

And there are of course those stories of young love that lasts- and good for them for being able to have that.

But that is not your real issue though, you mention wanted to prove some people wrong due to they questioned your beliefs ...... that there is vague too....

hmm.... is it that with others questioning your beliefs- you have started to question yourself?

I know a little on how it feels not to be certain of yourself, it does suck-- but ya know, with me-- i sit and I think and I figure out what is really true to my heart.... weather or not others agree. Some times beliefs are something with in that some others can't understand... Some times- even strong beliefs that one may have, can change as time and experiences one goes through in life.

Does it matter what others think or their beliefs? To an extent i suppose. but over all.. it is what i believe; and I will admit as I grow older, i tend to notice some of my beliefs i have had in the past are not so true as they once were.

rambling me-- It is hard to talk/give advice/opinions- with limited discussion of what the topic is.

*but I do wish you well

i think beliefs change over time. they may evolve into something stronger and more defined, or you may find that it no longer fits you or your situation... I think maybe what you want to ask is if it's their doubt that's creeping in? I know I have had moments like that, where I felt like a traitor to who I was in the past because I saw the validity of others' arguments for or against something... mostly I hate it when I find myself agreeing with my dad, who I always said I would never agree with... is that somewhere along the lines of what you were asking? or totally off base?

If you would have remain in the same mental stage (or age) maybe you could have kept that promise. We all evolve as we age and are more experienced, so it could be that now you just dont have the same believes as before.

As a personal trainer, I tend to set short term goals for myself. Thats what might work for you. Don't think about the long term. One day at a time. Message me for any further advice.

When it comes to people, time makes you not care. The first stages of letting go are always the toughest, though. As for goals, agree with short-term goals. It's hard to accomplish your end goal without getting discouraged along the way. Every small step has to be motivation for the next one.