How do you deal with not being socially acceptable . I cant make a friend to save my life. Even on here I don't feel excepted. Have spent my whole life this way and don't know why. Makes me feel like I'm just some stupid invisible person people just want to go away. Or am I just the only one? Maybe I should just do everyone a favor and go hide under a rock and delete me again.

[Meisjes]

(((((triste)))))) I can relate to feeling that way - Feeling stupid or invisible. Not an easy place to be in. Wish I knew what to say that would help you feel better and not ignored. I'm not usually on this forum I don't think. Came across your thread in today's posts, as I often post from there. will keep an eye out for you though. feel free to keep contact if you'd like. I hope you'll stick around. We can all use another friend.

[Travelinglady]

Hey, triste1! I don't guess we usually post on the same forums. I am sorry you are feeling neglected. It just depends on who is around at certain times and where they go on here. I doubt anyone is intentionally ignoring you--so please stay.

[mimi2112]

hi triste, i hear your pain.... send me a message if u want to talk.

[MPD-AvPD-BPD]

Your Not alone in this... I relate to how your feeling.. all i can say is stick in there... it does get better...

I met my ONLY and now Best friend (we like brother's when together) on a forum several (8)years ago... We live 100km apart, only get together every 6 months or so.. we send mails when needed... i've found it to be a relaxing helpfull friendship... there's no 'Oh why you not calling/messaging me' or any of that s#! if we dont talk for 6 months, it's fine, we go to the pub and sit for 5 or 6 hours and catchup, as if it's been just days....

Acctualy i'm buying a house around the corner from him and his wife (which gets on very well with mine), so that i can have more of his friendship therapy...

Hope to be moving very soon...

[Thunder Bow]

Please read this thread in the forum:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/copin...-part-1-a.html

Thank you all for your support. Will try to be more positive.

[Meisjes]

((((((Hi triste))))), how are you doing......I'm having a hard time finding threads I've responded to, to see how its going. took a while to get back here. actually found my posts in my account so that helped. been thinking about you though. Hope you're feeling better.

[rosepetal89]

Hello,
I am new here and I can relate with you. In a lot of aspects of my life, I can't seem to make relationships easily. People are just not drawn to me, and it makes me sad. It's so discouraging when something or someone makes me realize that I dont have close friends.

Hopefully, the last few days have shown you how many friends you DO have. I appreciate you.

Hi Triste1: I see by your profile that you're a "little older". I'm 64, so I'm allot older! I've only been on PsychCentral for a short time. I've messaged several users, with whom I seemed to have something in common, & ended by suggesting that they message me if they wanted to keep in touch. No one has.

So, I'm getting the impression that PsychCentral is pretty anonymous. People start threads & others reply, but at least it appears that longer term relationships are the exception rather than the rule. I don't know if this is true or not. Like I say, I'm new here.

I've been on YouTube for a while now & have developed some "intimate" internet friendships in the process. So, the kind of brief passing encounters that I've experienced here seem unusual to me. And it makes me think that, although I will continue to stop by occasionally, PsychCentral cannot replace YouTube as my primary source of internet activity.

I hope that you do stay with PsychCentral. It appears you haven't been here that long either. Maybe there's more opportunity here than we realize at this point! I would end by saying message me if you want to... but I don't seem to be getting anywhere with that, so I'll just say best wishes. Still...

[gaia67]

I'm sorry you're feeling that way triste. (((hugs)))

[gaia67]

Originally Posted by Bedobones

Hi Triste1: I see by your profile that you're a "little olderit'sm 64, so I'm allot older! I've only been on PsychCentral for a short time. I've messaged several users, with whom I seemed to have something in common, & ended by suggesting that they message me if they wanted to keep in touch. No one has.

So, I'm getting the impression that PsychCentral is pretty anonymous. People start threads & others reply, but at least it appears that longer term relationships are the exception rather than the rule. I don't know if this is true or not. Like I say, I'm new here.

I've been on YouTube for a while now & have developed some "intimate" internet friendships in the process. So, the kind of brief passing encounters that I've experienced here seem unusual to me. And it makes me think that, although I will continue to stop by occasionally, PsychCentral cannot replace YouTube as my primary source of internet activity.

I hope that you do stay with PsychCentral. It appears you haven't been here that long either. Maybe there's more opportunity here than we realize at this point! I would end by saying message me if you want to... but I don't seem to be getting anywhere with that, so I'll just say best wishes. Still...

I can't speak for others, but I know I struggle with social phobia to the point where it's difficult to rely one on one. It's possible that others are struggling with this too.

[huntreddog]

I've been their? Share with me so, as to get to know you better!

[avlady]

Triste1, I feel the same way sometimes, I tend to post alot as I have time to spare, I'm on disability so i can't get a job with my disability. I've seen your posts and name, but i just started in Jan so am still getting to know everyone. I hope you stay, i figured you were one of the higher up people on here if you know what i mean. well please stay and have a great day.

[LovelaceF]

Well, you have more friends on here than me, and I have been here longer and posted more. I would say that you're doing well, in comparison. Maybe I should be the one leaving.

Originally Posted by LovelaceF

Well, you have more friends on here than me, and I have been here longer and posted more. I would say that you're doing well, in comparison. Maybe I should be the one leaving.

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Don't leave..

I have close bonds with a few people here. Some happened naturally and some had to be cultivated. We may go days and even weeks without talking and then there are times when we have a flurry of conversations. I don't understand the ebb and flow of these relationships even though I'm at fault for the gaps just as much as my friends are. The relationships are very meaningful though. A lot of the members here tend to isolate, both internally and externally. Don't give up too quick.

Originally Posted by Bedobones

Hi Triste1: I see by your profile that you're a "little older". I'm 64, so I'm allot older! I've only been on PsychCentral for a short time. I've messaged several users, with whom I seemed to have something in common, & ended by suggesting that they message me if they wanted to keep in touch. No one has.

So, I'm getting the impression that PsychCentral is pretty anonymous. People start threads & others reply, but at least it appears that longer term relationships are the exception rather than the rule. I don't know if this is true or not. Like I say, I'm new here.

I've been on YouTube for a while now & have developed some "intimate" internet friendships in the process. So, the kind of brief passing encounters that I've experienced here seem unusual to me. And it makes me think that, although I will continue to stop by occasionally, PsychCentral cannot replace YouTube as my primary source of internet activity.

I hope that you do stay with PsychCentral. It appears you haven't been here that long either. Maybe there's more opportunity here than we realize at this point! I would end by saying message me if you want to... but I don't seem to be getting anywhere with that, so I'll just say best wishes. Still...