[puzzclar]

It feels like there are two sides of me. Logic and the other, emotions. My question is, how do you integrate the two sides, and how do you do so with out feeling out of control?

any help would be appreciated.

[BonnieG2010]

First: you recognize that the 2 sides are always you.

Second: you realize the situations where it is good to use one or the other.

Third: you feel them inside yourself without feeling cut in 2 because that's the way we are. We have a brain that is quite useful when you have to decide which is the shorter way to the mall and then we have feelings, hearts, souls or psyches (whatever you want to call them) that tells us who we are in life, where we want to go, what we need to achieve.

[Perna]

They aren't in competition, just two different tools that you use to make the best decisions. Emotions are information about how you are relating to yourself/others and your situation and you use them and your head/logic to see if you can make a decision/action so you'll feel better and whatever situation is bothering you will get resolved easiest. When your head says one thing and your heart another, you look deep and see what you really want, what would help you the most and make a plan to go that way. You're only in charge of you and doing what you want/helps you survive and thrive (making sure to try not to deliberately hurt others).

[kindachaotic]

for me personally there are two sides. logic almost always trumps emotion.
once I make a logical decision, as painful as they can be, after time has passed the emotions calm down.
you realize you've made the right decision. the two side integerate or re-integerate and your mind/emotions will calm & become one.
this can be a very difficult thing to go thru or it can be a simple common sense issue.

making decisions on emotions alone can be tricky.
you can be lead down the wrong path very quickly if you leave logic out of the equation.
whether it's a relationship, job situation, ect. do what's best for you and/or your children.

if you just can't wrap your head around this maybe a therapist can help you feel more in control of your life.

take care

[elr0897]

I feel like logic and emotion are both things we use everyday. Sometimes in situations you must follow your heart *meaning emotions* or you must follow your brain *meaning logic*. "Follow your heart but take your brain with you" Sometimes when you're in the heat of the moment, your emotions control you and you regret what you said or did later. My advice is to try to find a balance in making your decisions between using both logic and emotion.

[Thunder Bow]

Spock in Star Trek. Best to use your Heart.

[Patandorf]

I must offer a different opinion to all that has been said. Right now, my logic side is in great distress because he can't understand why the emotional side is going crazily out of control. Somewhat recently things took a very bad turn for the worst and I'm just having problems coping, sometimes. For me, a few years ago I had a full psych workup done on me and what stood out the most and I realize it's very prevalent in my life, is that, on it, it said that I have a profound understanding of the world, but I can almost never use my emotional side in conjunction with my logic side. I found myself looking at my life every now and then, and realizing this was very much true.

My emotions are going crazy right now and this divide is even more prevalent. One instance I can be sobbing over what happened, pushing me further down a very dangerous path. And then, it just stops and my logic side takes over and I do something else. I can't really remember making decisions using both looking back at the vastness of what I can't forget.

It has been said that, "A memory of a single man is a fortress, more complex than the vastest of cities". We are defined by how we use or logic and emotions. Sometimes there just things that one can't do and others that the other can only do. While for me they're always in conflict with having a smooth lifestyle and transition form one event to another, the use is just that. We use our emotions and logic in relative synchronicity, and they do fall out of sync. There can be no answer to how we can integrate them without losing control. They have to do that all by themselves. Monks, for example focus years of devotion to living a lifestyle that is only towards one emotion and all logic. That level of commitment means that they shut down parts of their emotions, but they're still there, just suppressed.

There is no integration for either of them, because for everything to work right they have to act independently. How much they communicate with each other to make connections that drive us. That's up to time, fate and environment. If you want to retrain your brain to integrate them better, It doesn't take days or months, it takes many years of striving for this. People who undergo this at a mental health facility are only given the tools to do it and a starting point. There not changed and they can relapse at any moment. However, they have been given for something to strive for.

I wish I could integrate them at all, but I can't and my life and transitions throughout the day are like bipolar switching every few minutes to hours. I can't nor do I think I can, or even on that note, want to, change how they work, because there are just some things that I need from one and not the other to get myself going or to understand something or get myself to stop. besides, my comprehension skills are driven almost entirely by my logic side and that has allowed me to understand what is. It also a few years ago gave me a 138 on an IQ test I had to take for school, the variant was +/- 7 too.

During this conversation, typing, I was in quite the emotional distress, but now I'm not, but I can feel it coming back. So there is no right answer to integrating them, they need to do it on their own if they can.

[bare_all]

I did a mindfulness-based stress reduction course recently and there were a few lessons I learnt there that I would like to share with you...

All your thoughts are generated in your brain and are the result of electrical impulses. They may not always be true and they may not always be helpful to you. If you are aware of what your thoughts are and how they are affecting how you feel from moment to moment then you have a much better chance of understanding yourself and what you want to do.

Meditating helps you connect with your mind and your body and be aware of your thoughts which helps you to understand how your are feeling mentally and physically, which brings you closer to understanding why...

Meditation also helps you calm the thoughts in your mind and for me this has helped me to see the wood for the trees and gain perspective and accept my life for what it is.

Sometimes there isn't a right or a wrong, and that you will be ok whatever decision you make.

Mindfulness meditation has helped me accept my life as it is and make my peace with the world. That in itself has made me a happier person. Perhaps it could help you too...

Whatever you do, take care and remember...tomorrow is another day!

[Thunder Bow]

Many words and head tripping is not the way to the Heart. You will feel better if you use and see with your Heart!

Don't ignore the brain but follow the heart