[snakeskin07]

I have been sick all i mean litterally all of my life. I am angry about it and it gives me a five minute fuse when i am not on abilify to slow down this fuse. I was recently taken off of abilify and i don't want that fuse back how do i manage that fuse and properly direct anger that is from a life time of frustration and not being able to change things?

[Thunder Bow]

What do you suffer from?

[snakeskin07]

I am bi polar, I have fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease, osteo arthritis, spinal stenosis, and a list of other minor ailments including optic neuritis, menieres and others. I am chronically ill due to many health problems in my life that also includes breathing and anger issues from being sick.

[Leed]

Hi ~ I have many of the illnesses that you do -- why did your doctor take you off Abilify? Was it due to side effects?

It sounds like you have a lot of anger, etc., that has been brewing for a long time. Your best bet would be to seek therapy. I've had severe depression since I was a small child, but didn't get treatment till I was in my 20's. That's when I entered therapy for the first time, which included a stay in a mental hospital. That was the best thing I could have done for myself.

Therapy CAN help you get to the root of these issues. And therapy CAN help you control or even wipe out many of these problems. Please have your doctor refer you to a good therapist --- he will know the best therapist for you. So call your doctor -- I promise, you won't regret it.

Best of luck, and God bless. Hugs, Lee

[liveforfish]

I know what you mean. Sometimes I snap easily and usually on my son. I don't mean to, but I hold it together all day at work and can only last so long. Sometimes it's like a nerve tick or something. I have to hold my breathe, breathe out slowly, and force myself not to bark at my family.

[snakeskin07]

Originally Posted by Leed

Hi ~ I have many of the illnesses that you do -- why did your doctor take you off Abilify? Was it due to side effects?

It sounds like you have a lot of anger, etc., that has been brewing for a long time. Your best bet would be to seek therapy. I've had severe depression since I was a small child, but didn't get treatment till I was in my 20's. That's when I entered therapy for the first time, which included a stay in a mental hospital. That was the best thing I could have done for myself.

Therapy CAN help you get to the root of these issues. And therapy CAN help you control or even wipe out many of these problems. Please have your doctor refer you to a good therapist --- he will know the best therapist for you. So call your doctor -- I promise, you won't regret it.

Best of luck, and God bless. Hugs, Lee

Good advice been there in therapy for 26 years... so hopefully i have learned the skills to keep it reigned in now... but i am here for support in the mean time as i come off the med and learn to cope with whatever comes my way.

[soxcatch]

This is one of my biggest issues, living in anger and resentment from so many things that have piled up over the years. I've read plenty of books on the matter, have been in counseling in the past, and I could tell you exactly what I'm "supposed" to do. However, when I'm in the moment all that I've learned goes right out the window.

[snakeskin07]

There in lies the problem. The current example is a simple one. My roomie has given too us as a group a chores list there was some arguement going on as too who should do what house work and what has getting done by whom. So we had to initial the form like a store bathroom chart LOL but I went with it as i wouldn't get stuck with everything. I found one room mate CHEATING going back to past days and penciling in when they didn't do things!

I was so miffed I was angry for two days. I was furious at the childishness of it all at the fact that the work that was done byanother a day before and remained clean was taken as credit the next day as having been done again when it merely hadn't needed done again. and was claimed as new work. Now granted I was justified for being upset but for TWO days? I should have been able to let it go and calm down. Instead I was so angry I couldn't sleep until I found a way around the cheat, Which I did. HA on them. BUT... why couldn't I be calm and let go of the fury that I was being mistreated? You know Mountain out of a MOLE hill aspect of the thing?

[Thunder Bow]

The mind and body are connected. You emotions affect your heath, and your health affects your emotions. You post is an good example of that.

[AlternateUniverse]

I find it helpful to express my anger creatively. And if that fails punching a pillow can help with a rage feeling without hurting myself or anyone else.

[soxcatch]

Originally Posted by AlternateUniverse

I find it helpful to express my anger creatively. And if that fails punching a pillow can help with a rage feeling without hurting myself or anyone else.

How do you express it creatively? I started journaling until my journals were found and someone's feelings got really hurt.

[AlternateUniverse]

Originally Posted by soxcatch

How do you express it creatively? I started journaling until my journals were found and someone's feelings got really hurt.

Mainly with painting. Painting about things that make me angry in the hope of getting them out more so than 'aggressive painting'.

[H3rmit]

Originally Posted by soxcatch

This is one of my biggest issues, living in anger and resentment from so many things that have piled up over the years. I've read plenty of books on the matter, have been in counseling in the past, and I could tell you exactly what I'm "supposed" to do. However, when I'm in the moment all that I've learned goes right out the window.

Right after I lose it is an excellent time for meditation, I find.

[16lightningwolf]

Originally Posted by snakeskin07

I have been sick all i mean litterally all of my life. I am angry about it and it gives me a five minute fuse when i am not on abilify to slow down this fuse. I was recently taken off of abilify and i don't want that fuse back how do i manage that fuse and properly direct anger that is from a life time of frustration and not being able to change things?

When I lived in the US I used exercise to get out all the TOXIC waste that one keeps inside. I loved Kick boxing ahh what a feeling of relief that was.
Besides I slept like a rock, here in MX is harder to find classes like that. So Igo swimming as much as I can and do cardio air box and kick (I made that name up lol) I just put some fast music at home and start punching the air and kicking it too, it does not feel the same.
But it helps. You end up so tired you forget you were angry

Also if you can drive in the country or somewhere where you can be alone Just scream your lungs out. you will feel better
Hang in there