[wally7714]

Hello! My name is walle and between age 21-25 I went through 3 very bad relationships ended in rejection, on the last one I had to be hospitalized, I couldn`t eat for days huge stomach pains from stress but I recovered and moved on. I noticed now in my 30+ I have no feeling of compassion or sadness, my friends say I`m a super nice guy but I have no heart. I wasn`t like that before.If somebody dies I don`t feel anything . My friend told me his niece comitted suicide felt absolutely nothing, I had to pretend that I care.Even my own father end up in hospital in critical condition and deep down I felt no sadness or any feeling whatsoever like I`d see spilled coffe on a sidewalk. My body can`t produce any sense of emotion about anything. I don`t care, I do`n bother anybody but people close to me are affected and say I need to see somebody. Is this serious?? Is this some kinda a illness??

[Leed]

Hi Wally ~ Yes, you should see someone, before your emotions are so deeply hidden that you'll never be able to draw them back out again. Our minds have a way of burying things deeply and believe me, you don't want your emotions to be that deep!

Talk to your medical doctor ~ he can refer you to a good therapist. He will know who is the best for you. While this is probably related to the breakups, some of this could even go back as far as your childhood -- one never knows!!! So try therapy -- you won't regret it!

God bless and please keep us posted from time to time as to how you're doing, will you? We'd REALLY like to know! Take care, Wally. Hugs, Lee

[Thunder Bow]

How you feel towards some one depends on the kind of connections you had with them. You have no connection with your friends niece, and probably only minor connections to your friend. Thus it is only natural you not going to have any heavy emotions about that. You may have deeper connections with you father, but you are not letting your self be aware of that right now.

[wally7714]

Thanks for your input. I`m working on it

[rosey1]

Yes, the issue of detached emotions is a complicated one. I have felt this recently, and it is called anhedonia, I think. I feel depressed and sometimes, I will cry randomly but it seems I rarely can cry even though sometimes I want to. I find that I cry over things I watch on TV also, but it is a random kind of thing as well. Any thought regarding my own experience or pain brings no emotion to me; it is like I purposely do not want to feel those things.